(Closed) Bridesmaid dress dilemma – age gap between my girls!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’d strait out ask you SILs. In a nice way, mention you heard/got the impression they weren’t happy with short and maybe discuss having one sort of dress for the friends and one longer (ie. tea length) for the SILs? I don’t think that would look weird and might make them more comfortable.

At my fathers wedding my step mother had her two daughters and two of her friends as BMs, they had the same colour but different style dresses which looked like they made sense due to the difference in both age and relationship. They all seemed comfortable and no one commented except in a positive light!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s so strange to me, I can’t imagine being in your 30s why you can’t wear a short bm dress. I’m 31 and i have NO problem wearing shorts, skirts, and short dresses, probably a lot shorter than a typical Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Being 30 is not a relinquishment to wear  long skirts and head scarves!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  I agree! I’m 29 (will be 30 soon) and I still love wearing body con dresses & short skirts/dresses!!! Maybe I just love my body so I’m more acceptable to embracing it?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Are we sure the husbands aren’t just trying to hide their wives awesome figures?? 😉

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s amazing that they are all too nice to say something! That probably means that they know it’s your day and want to go with whatever you want to go with. I personally think that if you want short, for the many reasons you stated, go short! I think it’s unbelievably nice of you to be concerned about what they are comfortable with though, and it shows that you are an awesome bride to work with. And this is just me, but different lengths on the bridesmaids would be a little off, for me!

My advice would be to go with what YOU want, especially if they voiced that it’s “whatever you want”, which.. in my opinion, it should be!! If the girls (SILs) came to you personally and told you that they were uncomfortable with short.. then I would say reexamine the issue. 

I personally don’t think being in their 30s should stop them from wearing a shorter dress. I actually have a friend who is in her early 30s and just wore a pouffy short dress to a wedding in August. She wasn’t a fan, but at the end of the day, it was her friends wedding so she was more than happy to wear it. Go with what you want, but it is sweet that you are concerned 🙂 good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Not 30 yet, still 27 but in 3 years I cant imagine it being any different. I honestly still feel like im 19 lol

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know that sometimes you can have extra length added to a dress, so maybe that is an option?  Have them order a short dress but with extra length so it’s not quite as short? Not sure how helpful that is, but it might work! Good luck dress hunting! :]

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@RedWine13:  Yes! I’m 34 and I’d prefer a short dress over a long one as a bridesmaid. I choose cocktail (within an inch above the knee or right at it) for my bridesmaids. They are 37, 58 and 37. My aunt, who is 58, has a jacket with her dress and she’ll likely wear nude stockings. I’m not sure what size your bridesmaids are in their 30’s, but my bridesmaid are a size 8 or less. I’m a size 0 now, but I use to be a 14. I think if I was still a 14 I’d probably like a longer dress better. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedWine13:  Is it possible that it is the style of the short dress they feel is too young for them and not the length?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedWine13:  I hope it helps! A couple inches can make a HUGE difference. :]

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