(Closed) Bridesmaid dress dilemma…. What would you do?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What is the best thing for me to do considering my dilemma
    Tell my MOH she can't keep putting on weight : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Put my MOH into a different dress : (22 votes)
    81 %
    Buy new custom dresses for each bridesmaid : (4 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Is she pregnant? Gaining 2 dresse sizes in one month is a bit extreme I think.

    Post # 4
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    680 posts
    Busy bee

    Well…buying dresses on the fly without REALLY knowing if they would fit in the first place is very risky…and this may be the first of many fit issues to come. I would advise against telling someone to “stop putting on weight.” Sometimes as women a little bit of water weight or swelling will put us over the edge of our actual size, so that could create a lot of hurt feelings and make others feel uncomfortable knowing that you are scrutinizing their bodies from now until the wedding to make sure they don’t put on a pound or two. Don’t be that person. How do the other dresses fit the other ladies? If you are having problems all around, just trash this idea and start anew. If it’s JUST the Maid/Matron of Honor dress, go shopping with her to find one that fits. Whatever you choose, just do not go route #1.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Ummmm you cant really control your MOH’s weight.  Maybe she is stressed, pregnant or having a health problem.  Either way it is none of your business.  Why did you purchase the dresses so far in advance without knowing if they would fit or not?  Thats your mistake and not your MOH’s responsibility

    Post # 7
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    866 posts
    Busy bee

    There is no way you tell her to stop gaining weight. What an incredibly insensitive thing to think about doing. I am sure she feels much worse than you do about her weight gain.

    Post # 8
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @tadblingobsessed:  Do not ask your sister to stop putting on weight, you can’t be certain of why she is putting on weight and she may not be able to help it. Even if she’s over eating it could be due to an underlying meduical factor. 

    I’d say that you took a huge risk ordering dresses without knowing anyone’s sizes. You need to make sure all the other girls fit into those dresses, if not sell them all and find new ones. If all the other girls fit them, then just find a new one for your sister.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    Yikes. Can you tell her you can only afford one dress per person and if she grows out of it she’ll have to pay for it?

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Put Maid/Matron of Honor in a different dress but only if you’re 100% sure the dresses fit the other girls so you’re not in the same situation down the road.  If not then get different ones.

    Post # 11
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    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lealorali:  Ouch. that sounds quite mean.

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