(Closed) Bridesmaid dress disagreement!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m not a fan of the convertible dresses so I’m a bit biased. I do, however, think your Bridesmaid or Best Man is being out of line. You’re trying to save her money. But I wouldn’t push the issue TOO hard, especially if she’s sensitive about her size/weight. If you can, try making one with a “stiffer” fabric.

Also…take the time to see if there are other things bothering her. I let a bridesmaid “go” today, but that was after I took the time to find out that she’s super stressed about other things and being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is just one more thing to worry about. If your friend is not normally like this, she could be either jealous of you or upset about something else and just taking it out on you.

Post # 4
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You are the bride, do what you want.  It sounds like most of the girls like this dress and the other one is a bit of a drama queen.  When she gets married, she can get her way all the time.  I have a sister who is the same way (and size) so I have heard the same thing since the day I asked her to be in the wedding.

If this person is making your wedding planning misserable, you might want to sit down and have a talk with her, give her the option of dropping out but also tell her how important it is that she share this with you.  It sounds like she is an insecure person and more than a little jealous right now.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

the two-birds dress is made of some type fabric that looks like jersey and does hang and cling an awful lot.. i hate that fabric so i can understand her fears.  have you thought of davidsbridal? because they have many different styles in the same color. maybe if you show her some dresses from davids she can pick a style she likes and then you can make that for her? i think as soon as she sees a style in a firmer fabric she will calm down.

Post # 6
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would go for the choose a dress in the same color from a specific store option. I like the convertible dress but if your friend has it already in her mind that the dress will show all of her flaws….that’s all she’s going to see even if it’s not true. Honestly, if you are happy with them choosing their own dress….go with that…a lot less drama.

Post # 7
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t like those kind of dresses either, and if I was given a choice to wear that or step down, I would step down. In my opinion, those dresses are very unflattering on almost all types of figure shapes. I think the plan to go with a dress of her choice in a color you choose would be the way to go on this one. If you give everyone a color swatch, they can go pick a dress that they like in a style they like in the color you like.

Post # 8
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1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh this is awful. I would sit down and tell her how you feel about her behavior so far. Then give her her options about the dress and let her choose.

Post # 9
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’ve read posts from bees on here who made their own convertible dresses and they said that the type of material used was key (after several failed attempts)…i think they have to be akin to jersey, and speaking as a bigger girl, jersey is NOT flattering on larger women as it clings like a mother.  while she sounds like she is being rather difficult, just something to keep in mind.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think those dresses are beautiful, and they are flattering on everyone….given you wear the right undergarments. I mean come on….we’ve all heard of Spanx. I do agree that some fabrics can give a 110 lb. girl a “beer belly,” but with such flowy fabric there is no reason she can’t wear something supportive underneath! (If everything was tucked in, I’m sure she would end up loving the way her curves looked)

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think those dresses are beautiful, and they are flattering on everyone….given you wear the right undergarments. I mean come on….we’ve all heard of Spanx. I do agree that some fabrics can give a 110 lb. girl a “beer belly,” but with such flowy fabric there is no reason she can’t wear something supportive underneath! (If everything was tucked in, I’m sure she would end up loving the way her curves looked)

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I personally think you should go with what you like as it’s your big day!!  If people don’t think it will flatter them, they should go with what makes you happy or loose some weight.  It’s offensive for BMs to be making statements about not being happy with the dress.  Lets face it, if you’re fat, you wont really look good in anything.

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