Post # 1
So me and my bridesmaid went to pick out our dresses a few months ago…
Theirs came in but one of my bridesmaids dress didn’t fit hers. Maybe 4-5 inches it wouldn’t zip. She said oh i can loose the weight no problem… so I was like okay i will give her the benefit of the doubt. So we went to a party and we were drinking we are both beer drinkers i had a few, she also had a few she also had a few pieces of cake. I’m not saying dont eat cake but if your dress isn’t fitting right i’m not sure cake is the best option. I have been calling her asking if she would like to join me and she denied. She went out and sprained her ankle so now i really know she can’t be going to the gym. I went back to davids bridal to change my dress and asked them about getting her a new size if needed, they said that particular dress is on back order and if she needs to switch sizes she would need to go back ASAP. I just dont know how to bring it up… I asked her if she has tried it.. and she never responded. I just dont want to be annoying.. but i dont want to be stressing about her dress… I have my own dress to stress about. What is a nice way of asking about it?
Post # 3
I would just say something like “Hey I was at David’s today and just in case.. I checked with them if it would be an issue to exchange your dress and they let me know any changes would need to be made ASAP”. Then leave it up to her. If she chooses not to exchange the dress and she doesn’t fit in it on the wedding day.. then she will have to sit it out.
Post # 4
You should definitely talk to her NICELY about ordering a new dress or w/e or call the dress place and ask their opinion.
Post # 5
Can she get the dress altered at all to have it let out a bit? Most dresses have some wiggle room for alterations.
Post # 6
From a bride who also had a BM dress that was a good 4-5 inches too small…
She needs a new dress. Pronto. No dress has THAT much room to be let out.
MAYBE if it were a little short from being able to be zipped up, she could lose some weight and get some shapewear and it would be ok. But it’s time to be realistic. No. Freaking. Way. is she losing enough weight to have that dress be flattering, especially since she’s got an injury and she really isn’t taking immediate action to lose the weight by changing her diet.
It SUCKS, but it’s time to have a very nice, gentle conversation with her. Explain to her that you want her to look her best, and that wouldn’t it be better to exchange the dress for the next size up? It’s SO much better to take a dress in than to squeeze yourself into one that is too small. You want her to be able to eat and dance at your wedding, and if her dress is too small she’s just going to be uncomfortable.
Post # 7
Maybe you can switch the order at David’s yourself. Then when she gets the larger dress that fits, she won’t say anything about it. If she does say something, you can be like “oh they must have misunderstood” and leave it be.
Post # 8
Unfortunately, you’ll need to try to talk to your BM. If the dress physically won’t zip, then clearly she has nothing to wear to your wedding. I’d say something along the lines of, “Trying to loose X amount of weight before my wedding is a lot of pressure on you, especially with your recently injury. David’s Bridal said we could order you a dress in that will be more comfortable for you, but we need to order it now for it to be in by the wedding. How does that sound?”