(Closed) Bridesmaid Dress Drama

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
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Helper bee

Ugh, poor you. That sounds mega sucky.

I think you need to go with what you want! And I think grey is a good compromise from black. Though I don’t think black wouldn’t work in august, I do think you need to go with your vision and if black isn’t that then say NO! You’ve already gone along with long when that wasn’t your initial wants.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think there’s anything “wrong” with black at all. But I do think you should get what you want with the colors. If you envisioned light gray, then go with that!

Although, where are you located? You can always say you think long black dresses would be too hot in August (which it very well might be). I had a friend who was a bridesmaid in the California desert in a long black dress. It looked great but was TORTURE for her.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

You need to nip Bridesmaidzilla in the bud before she becomes completely out of control and tries to get her own way on more things (speaking from experience). You said grey. Therefore, they will wear grey. There are plenty of dresses out there in the right colour which they can choose. Just say NO.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Why would choosing black make it “easier” on you than using a color that fits your vision? 
That sounds crazy. If your bridesmaids (mainly Future Sister-In-Law from what I see) are trying to make you choose black when you’re unsure, thten stand up for yourself and tell them what color you want. 

 

But if you’re fine with black, I think it would work in the summer, depending on what kind of wedding it was. My cousin (a very fashionable woman) had a black, silver and purple theme to her July wedding and had the bridesmaids wear black, it was lovely. They looked very nice!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Itsallcomingtogether:  Have you discussed it with FI? Mine had surprisingly strong opinions about what BMs should wear. You should ask his opinion and, if he agrees, get him to fight this battle. But giving in is that start of a slippery slope…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Get whatever color you want! Do not be pressured into black if it is not what you want. This is your day and you should not be pressured by everyone into a choice. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

There is this awesome word, it accomplishes so much and is so very short…”No”

No, I would like grey dresses, not black.

No, I don’t want them to be strapless

No, I don’t want them to be long.

You go to the mirror and practice saying that word over and over again until you get it, No..no…NO!

I understand that it’s easy as a soft spoken and quiet person to be overwhelmed by the rackous and rowdy types, especially when they take it upon themselves to tag team you in the bridal boutique…but you know what you want…black doesn’t make things easier, in fact it’s just strange that they would be so gung ho about it anyway.

AND, if it’s just not your style to stand up to people, I am certain you have a friend that is more than willing to act as the mouth piece of your wishes, take her whenever you know you’ll be with these women and in a place where you have to make a decision..it’s ok to hedge your bets…it’s your wedding.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Itsallcomingtogether:  One thing I have learned is that, when it comes to this sort of thing, discuss it with your Fiance and then present a united front. Don’t mention his sister or any family or emotional issues. Just say something like:

“These are my wedding ideas so far. These are our colours. I was thinking of grey for the dresses, but black has also been suggested. I would prefer grey, but what is your opinion and why?”

Thrash it out with him and come to a conclusion between just the two of you. After that… it’s just tough on everyone else!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

do light grey, black will be too hot if you take pictures outside, and its your choice do not bend to the whims of your Future Sister-In-Law

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