Bridesmaid Dress drama

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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4551 posts
Honey bee

Eh, $100 is pretty reasonable for a bridesmaid dress unless you’ve been living on the moon. But at this point you have choices. You can offer to pay for the dress or you can relieve her of her bridesmaid duties. If you offer to pay, see what she says. My guess is she will come up with some reason to get out of it, because it doesn’t sound like she wants to be in the bridal party.

Post # 32
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

sunburn :  My feelings, too.

She’s being pouty and procrastinated on spending time looking for a dress that wasn’t for her in concept, but was for you. She should have bought a dress when she initially agreed and, seemingly, had the financial capability to. Or maybe she’s just being a jealous bitch, but she doesn’t sound like she wants to be a supportive friend.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

It comes with the territory of being in the bridal party. Seems like she may not have realized whats involved since generally its expensive & time consuming. I would sit down with your maid and see if she really wants to be involved or not.

People spend their money on things that are a priority to them, although you should not judge her for her hobby. An extra $100 isn’t going to save anybody but problems will likely going to be ongoing. I’d think about asking her if she wants to relinquish her duties and save yourself stress and heartache.

We had a groomsman who was complaining about the cost of the suit. When we offered to pay for it, he agreed. 1 month before the weddding he backed out completely. It left hubby and I hurt and in a bad position. Relationship totally destroyed.

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper

OK, semi unpopular opinion here. I think it’s fine to have a budget….both the bride and the bridesmaid. But in the US it is standard and expected to buy a dress (within reason). So unless you’re leaving something out, it seems like getting a dress $100 or under is reasonable.

Its not a surprise that she has to buy a dress so it’s kind of annoying that she is being weird about it. And you shouldn’t tell her how to spend her money, it’s reasonable to expect another adult to be able to budget for themselves. And if they truly can’t afford it…then that’s that. There’s nothing to be done about thar. But presumably there are options. Davids bridal has sales, online has good deals. There’s a sale if you’re willing to look. 

So I’d be annoyed, not sure what you can do about it other than offer to put something towards her dress if you can afford it. 

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