(Closed) Bridesmaid Dress Drama..HELP

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think it would look weird 🙂 If you’re going with different style dresses anyways then it will fit with that theme! Since it’s lace it’ll also match your wedding dress, so if the other two are chiffon and hers is lace, she could stand in the middle for pictures and the fabrics would alternate.

My bridesmaids will also have different dresses, different fabrics and even different colours (one is beige, one is lavender and the other two are aiming to find dusty rose/blush pink dresses). 

Check these out. They’re similar colours, but different fabrics and they look nice!

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/7599893098254381/

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/240661173814969010/

Lots of other pictures on pinterest 🙂 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I initially wanted an all lace dress and my BMs to wear lace as well but I’m indecisive and have one picky bridesmaid out of a total of 7.  What I did was used paint on the computer to copy and paste pictures of the dresses we were considering, enough for each person, to get a visual of what it would look like.  I was sort of happy with what I saw.  Have you seen her dress and how do you feel about it and having everyone in different dresses?  That’s really what it boils down to IMO.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I agree with PP, it will look fine!

BUT it is your day, and if you want her to wear the orriginal dress and stick with the orriginal plan I think you’re allowed to ask her to. Maybe explain to her how much drama she is causing, and that if you let her change the plan all the other bridesmaids will want to change the plan as well!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Why would she do that? Did she think it was ok because it was in the same color and general style as the other dresses? Just seems like an odd thing to do if everyone already agreed to buy dresses from a particular designer in a particular fabric.

If it doesn’t stick out noticeably from the other dresses, I wouldn’t be thrilled but I’d just tell her to go ahead and wear it. If it does stick out or is extremely different from what you agreed on, then I think she should have to buy the original dress. She did bring this upon herself.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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nikkikeesee:  That’s so strange that she would order a different dress…

Honestly, I think one lacy form fitting dress and two chiffon flowy dresses are going to look a little odd right next to each other. If the navy on the lace dress is similar enough to the chiffon dresses, would you consider going for mismatched navy dresses instead? You could have one of your other girls wear one of the chiffon dresses, and then another one would have to look for a third option? As long as the length and colour are the same, I think the different fabrics and styles would be okay together. Of course, this would only work if the others haven’t ordered their dresses, and if you’re happy with that look.

At the end of the day though, she made a bad decision to order a different dress and will have to absorb the impact of that mistake if you want to stick with your original plan (which I think would be entirely reasonable). I would just explain to her that not only does the new dress not fit the vision you had, you don’t think it will look very good to have one Bridesmaid or Best Man in such a different style. Perhaps ask her if there was a specific reason she didn’t want to order the original dress, in case there is a legitimate issue for her?

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Aesthetically, I think it can work, even if the specific shades of navy are slightly different. Like hopfenn said, you can have the lace dress in the middle, so it creates a pattern effect, and it will look entirely intentional. However, you need to be comfortable with that aesthetic, and the real issue, as others have pointed out, is that this bridesmaid purchased a dress that you hadn’t agreed to. So, ultimately, it depends on what you feel comfortable with seeing on your wedding day and how much you actually care (some brides I know wouldn’t even notice).

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