Post # 1
So after one of smoothest bridesmaid dress shopping experiences compared to what I’ve heard from other bees-the girls ordered their dresses. They are from Jim Hjelm, they are lovely, everyone loves them. Score.
Until today when I get a email from the shop. Once of the nice things about Jim Hjelm is that they will make fabric changes on dresses for you. So two of the dresses (they are attached below) are going to change from dupioni to silky tafetta. It was the only way to get the pretty eggplant color that matches the rest of the wedding-and was my only ‘color!’ moment of the entire wedding.
Well apparently, JH called the salon and told them that while they can change the dresses themselves, they can’t change the flowers that are attached to it? And would it be okay if the flowers were attached in a red color? Um….NO. Why bother changing the fabric if there’s going to be a big red spot on it? Even more confusing-JH has dresses in taffetta that come with flowers. They also sell detachable belts and flowers in taffetta. The same flower details they won’t change on a dress that they are already having to recut. I don’t get it-their machines/specialists already cut flowers in the same pattern for other dresses-why is it when you change your fabric on these two dresses that they can’t use the same design?
I sent a very nice (because it’s not their fault) email back to the salon explaining my confusion and wondering if a different fabric selection would help. Seriously they offer the dress in 6 fabrics-surely they attach flowers to one of them right? Hopefully they’ll work something out, but what are my other options? 1) Change back to the original reddish wine color that will clash will all of the purple details we already have? I’ve checked the fabric swatches, if they were two different shades of purple I wouldn’t care, but it really is a merlot red vs. eggplant. 2) Find another fabric? Hopefully they’ll do flowers in that color? 3) Buy those belts/detachable flowers myself and get them sewn on? 4) Cut the ugly flowers off? 5) Change designers all together? I’d like to avoid #5, as having maids from 2 coasts plus Europe made getting them all together to try on dresses a pain in the ass.
Post # 3
If I was you I would buy the detachable flowers and get them sewn on. You shouldn’t compromise on the exact dress designs that you want, or on the fabric that you want x
Post # 4
Just wait and see what the salon says. If anything goes ary, you can always check etsy for flowers for the dresses. Def don’t have anything clashing with your colors! And I also chose jim hjelm dresses..for what our maids are paying for them.. we should get exactly what we want!
Post # 5
Does that designer have any dresses that don’t have a flower? Maybe if you eliminated the flower altogether, that could solve the problem. I’d think the shop would accomodate a change in your order(s) considering the circumstances.
What about one of these?
Post # 6
@MrsNeutrino: Exactly! For that price (and considering they charged extra for the fabric change that I paid for instead of the bm’s) getting just ‘okay’ is not really my cup of tea.
@Krises: They do make dresses without the detail, but the girls each picked out their own dresses so these are the ones that they like. If we totally changed dresses we’d have to start over from scratch, and I’d really not have to do that.
I did hear back from the shop and they are going to contact Jim Helm directly again and get back to me. At this point, we might just cut the flowers, but I’m still frustrated that they would allow fabric changes and then throw this in for the detailing. I’d rather have not had been able to order them then have this gum up the works. I mean, they are having to cut the pattern in a different fabric already-how hard is it to cut a flower? Or just use one of the ones they already have?
Post # 7
I kinda had the same problem mine have trim and a sash and flower and I wanted them to be one color and the dress to be a different color, but the flower only comes in Ivory WTF, so I just ended up getting trim and sash in ivory too since that would be too much.
Post # 8
I would see if you could get them to make the dress however they “have” to make it in the color that you want, cut off the flower that doesn’t match and ask them if they can send something in the same color that you could attach yourself, even if it’s a different fabric. That just sounds ridiculous that they won’t do it.
Post # 9
Success! Our dress shop really really came through for us, and had a couple of talks with Jim Hjelm. JH is going to take the flowers off another dress for us in tafetta (the flowers are premade somewhere else so they can’t just cut new ones) and put them onto ours. Free of charge!
Whoo! Such a relief. Still, if you had told me a year ago I would have a panic attack about fabric flowers I would have laughed in your face. It still feels silly to me, although for the amount we’re all paying……
Post # 10
@lolo7835: glad to hear 🙂 The world has been saved by yet another fabric flower! :-p