Post # 1
I’m just feeling a lot of guilt about the whole bridesmaid dress. I have absoluetly wonderful supportive bridesmaid who wouldn’t even blink if I picked anything under $200. I love my bridesmaid which is why I feel guilty. I know that none of them ever really spend much on clothes, especially dresses. If any of them have bought a dress over a $100 then it was something they absolutely were crazy over the moon couldn’t live without it. So now I’m asking these women I love to spend probably around $150 on a dress that they didn’t even pick out. I am trying to find something they at least like but even then is not something they will love because I think that is unrealistic to think I’ll find a dress that fits my wedding, and 4 different women absolutely love.
I wish it was in the budget to buy their dresses but its not. They are already doing so much for me, it just bums me out and I feel so guilty.
Post # 3
I think 150 is reasonable. Thats just kind of part of being a bridesmaid…buying a dress you know you wont wear again. Im sure they understand. As long as they dont hate the dress they will be fine 🙂
Post # 4
I feel the exact same way. I know my Bridesmaid or Best Man wouldn’t normally pay 200 for a dress and neither would I for that matter. I’m trying anything to find cheap dresses. I’m hoping to find a non-bridesmaid dress if possible and preferably on sale!
Post # 5
Have you discussed what budget they would be comfortable with prior to picking the dress? I had an agreement with my bridesmaids that they would pay up to $150 on their dresses. If I fell in love with a dress that was more, I’d pay just the difference.
I think most people realize bridesmaid’s dresses are overpriced, and it’s just part of standing up there for a good friend.
Post # 6
Yea, it’s always a tought situation with birdesmaids and picking the dresses. My maid of honor won’t even spend $20 on a shirt… so that $150 dress is a stretch! For the most part, no bridesmaid is overly excited to buy a dress for that much. But they are usually willing to so they can be a part of your day. Just take it slow and ask for advice on the dresses, but know when to make an executive decision. Can’t wait to see them!
Post # 7
Its just odd because as a Bridesmaid, i have always been happy to buy the dress and I know they feel that same way but the whole wedding just seems like so much to ask. I feel like my guilt over finding something perfect for all four is making me incapable of making a decision about the dresses. I guess I just need to get over it
Post # 8
They can always sell them after the wedding! I know how you feel. I am only having my young, broke college-kid sister as my maid of honor and my teen daughter as my bridesmaid, so I am buying both dresses (luckily prom season is coming up, so I am hoping to find something cute and young and affordable). If I had anymore girls than that, I wouldn’t be able to cover the cost.
I really do think that $150 is completely average and most maids expect to have to shell out money!
Post # 9
I have to review this thread becaues I am just struggling so much with this decision. I have spent hours and hours on this over the last few months and just haven’t found anything that works that is cheaper then $190 but I can’t get over the feeling that I’m being a bridezilla because obviously there are other options out there that are cheaper but I don’t like them as much or don’t feel they are quality dress. I hate to ask women to spend over 100 bucks on dresses that are not quality. This has been by far the hardest detail of this wedding and I am just beating myself up over it. I HAVE to make a decision and soon so we have time to order etc.
Post # 10
Have you actually gone out shopping with them and had them try some on? I know people always think they hope their BM’s will wear them again, but the reality is that very few ever do. The quality is probably not as important to them as it is to you, but the cost probably is.
Post # 11
2 of the 4 are out of state so its not so possible. Of the 2 in state, one won’t make time to go even though I’ve asked and the other is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we have gone together to look but didn’t have much success and we had a hard time visualizing how it would look on other body types.
Interesting point about quality vs price because I always thought the other way as a Bridesmaid so that is helpful to hear another thought