Post # 16
sollyb : Well, for what it’s worth, I actually think for the most part brides should butt out, too. My comment has nothing to do with her fiance’s genitalia. I’m not a fan of adults dressing other adults (though I’m just ever so slightly more tolerant of it if the bride is paying for the dresses – which wasn’t specified in this post). Give a color scheme and let them know the formality level and let people wear what they are most comfortable in. But in this particular case, it’s too late to say the bride should butt out, too, since she’s already picked the dress out. At this stage the people who have to wear the dress are happy with the dress and that’s more important than whether someone who doesn’t have to wear the dress likes the neckline. Too many cooks spoil the broth.
Post # 17
Just to add: he doesn’t want their dresses to take away from yours… the bride. Like they’ll somehow be distracting enough for everyone to look at them all day instead of looking at you? That’s a weird opinion to have about the women that his future wife considers her nearest and dearest.
I am not a fan of the mindset behind this.
Post # 18
I love it and think it will be fabulous with your dress. Against what some posters have said, I think it is plenty formal and don’t think a dress has to be floor length/the typical formal style to be a fit for this type of wedding. Great choice!
Post # 19
My initial pick was floor length, that’s definitely MY personal preference – however the bridesmaid who helped picked the dress in question doesn’t like floor length for her body type and 3/4/midi is more her style, I respect that and agree.
I got a hold of my Maid/Matron of Honor and she also loves the dress, so I purchased them last night.
As another poster said, he is a a guy who is quite particular (as am i) and more into fashion than the average guy. I think he holds concern for that bridesmaid who choose with me as she is a blonde bombshell, loves to be centre of attention – will ALWAYS be centre of attention, that’s just who she is, she’s stunning but loves to be in the limelight, her other picks were bright red lace dresses. So I felt this was a very good comprimise.
He has come around to the dress after me showing him all of the others she liked, its clear he just doesn’t like that front detail of the dress – but in the grand scheme of things its not a huge deal. Myself and my bridesmaids are happy, and he’s happy that we atleast didn’t come home with a bright red lace dress. Thanks again for your comments 🙂
Post # 20
deleted my original post, it wasn’t very kind