Bridesmaid dress train wreck. Mismatch dress help!!! (Pics) Share Please

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
334 posts
Helper bee

If you want to do ‘mismatched’ you need to set a solid colour scheme and stick with it. In the dresses they like the colours are everywhere and I don’t think that will look great. 

Post # 3
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think if they got those dresses but all in the same color or color family, it would be fine! They have a similarity (length) and the whole mismatched thing really comes together because of color. 

Post # 4
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Gloucestershire, UK

All of those styles would go, if they were in the same colour – or perhaps a mix of two or three colours. They all seem similar enough a fabric? The only one which really stands out as ‘odd’ is the purple lace one shoulder, purely because none of the other dresses have lace. It looks a bit out of place. 

We’re doing mismatched and I’ve given my girls three options – multiway dress in same colour, same dress in two different complimenting shades or different dresses (same fabric/legnth) but in same colour. It still means they have about three billion choices out there, but they have more guidance.

I think you’re on the right track Bee. Do you know the make of the dresses? Maybe find stock pictures of them in the colours you want, and make a mock up of how they’ll all look together?

Post # 5
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why is it that they have to match?  I didn’t ask my girls to buy specific dresses.  They just came in whatever dress they wanted.  My only stipulation was not long.  

Your bridesmaids are not photo props or decor.

Post # 6
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree that the styles are good but would suggest narrowing the colors down, too. I couldn’t quite tell from your post if they were choosing their own colors?

(Also- from a curvy gal–for your one bridesmaid that isn’t happy with any yet- I’d suggest if you can – take her shopping privately. And maybe see if you can use/borrow dark or skin color bras that have convertible straps for trying on different styles. I could almost promise you that she will find options she likes more if she’s not comparing herself to other girls right then and there and can really see what it will look like without bra straps so visible.

& random but I have a cardinal rule of no socks when trying on dresses and skirts. They can really throw off the look. So I would also have her bring some shoes/heels that will give her a better feel for how lovely she will look, too.)

Post # 8
9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016


It’s hard to picture in the wrong colors.. if the girls like the cuts, I think it’s NBD that they’re quite different… as long as the color scheme co-ordinates better in the end it’s not a big deal.  At least, I don’t think so.

Post # 9
4026 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This might be hard to see from this picture (I haven’t gotten my pro ones back yet) but all my girls wore mismatched, long black dresses, all from DB and my girls wore almost all the dresses your girls tried on, but long.. Here’s a pic to get an idea. I think they all looked great together! I honestly think the ones your girls chose (in the right colors) will look great! 

Post # 10
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I took my girls to Davids and decided on the wine color and long lenth. Then from there it was between fabrics. I would remove the lace dresses as an option. They all seem fond of the flowier fabrics. As long as they are of similar length, fabric, and color palette you will be good to go!

Post # 11
3043 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe this mix could work for your BMs?

Second dress from Genuine People; last dress from Shabby Apple; the rest from Asos.



Post # 12
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’d just give a length and a colour. Maybe a fabric to help if you want. 

Post # 13
668 posts
Busy bee

I think the last photo collage looks the best, but the colors need to be more cohesive. IMO the key to having mismatch dresses look cohesive is to have the same length, fabric, (which it looks like the dresses are in that last photo- except the purple one shoulder that the Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t like) and then choose similar colors with different necklines. You’re close!

Post # 14
1890 posts
Buzzing bee

I tried to do mismatched outfits in a range of colors, but everyone just ended up picking the same color. I think the key to going this way is to set firm parameters (pick one color & length) and then trust them to figure the rest out. Pinterest has a lot of cute, photogenic ideas for mismatched dresses, but organizing a group of real people with opinions and tastes is much harder than it looks.

Post # 15
63 posts
Worker bee

Once the dresses are in the right colors they will look good. Especially, like others have said, if they are in similar fabrics. 

Also, bridesmaids always look better if they are in a dress they like. 

I don’t think short dressess look quite as good mismatched as long in pics since the hemlines can be all over the place. 


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