Post # 1
By some miracle I was actually able to get all my bridesmaids together and dress shop over the weekend! We had a blast. I’m trying to pull of a short dress version of this look in these three colors. Wine, Sangria and plum. 2 girls in each color.
I told my BM’s I’m leaning towards having them chose any empire waist short dress they want. I don’t care what the top does what so ever. So here are their faves from Sat (the second to the right hated all the dresses so that purple one shoulder is not actually her pick, so far she picks nothing. We have lots of time so that’s ok). 3 of them chose a slinky non-empire waist dress as their fave. All but 2 were willing to wear it. If they all liked it it would have worked but it just looks like a train wreck to me mixed in with the others doesn’t it? Some one help me out here. All but one Bridesmaid or Best Man are pretty much willing to wear what ever I pick. I just want them to be comfy and included without looking like a mess.
The slinky one is on every other girl here. The one in gray on the left didn’t actually like that dress my junior Bridesmaid or Best Man (far left) did but we just don’t feel its age appropriate for her and her dad agrees. The girl in gray would be willing to wear it though.
Here are some of their other choices. Is it just me or this just a mess together? Everyone in this pic is in a dress they like besides purple one shoulder second to right.
Any tips on doing the whole mismatch dress thing? Anyone sucessfully pull off different colors and dresses? If so PLEASE share pics. Help!
Post # 2
If you want to do ‘mismatched’ you need to set a solid colour scheme and stick with it. In the dresses they like the colours are everywhere and I don’t think that will look great.
Post # 3
I think if they got those dresses but all in the same color or color family, it would be fine! They have a similarity (length) and the whole mismatched thing really comes together because of color.
Post # 4
- Wedding: Gloucestershire, UK
All of those styles would go, if they were in the same colour – or perhaps a mix of two or three colours. They all seem similar enough a fabric? The only one which really stands out as ‘odd’ is the purple lace one shoulder, purely because none of the other dresses have lace. It looks a bit out of place.
We’re doing mismatched and I’ve given my girls three options – multiway dress in same colour, same dress in two different complimenting shades or different dresses (same fabric/legnth) but in same colour. It still means they have about three billion choices out there, but they have more guidance.
I think you’re on the right track Bee. Do you know the make of the dresses? Maybe find stock pictures of them in the colours you want, and make a mock up of how they’ll all look together?
Post # 5
Why is it that they have to match? I didn’t ask my girls to buy specific dresses. They just came in whatever dress they wanted. My only stipulation was not long.
Your bridesmaids are not photo props or decor.
Post # 6
I agree that the styles are good but would suggest narrowing the colors down, too. I couldn’t quite tell from your post if they were choosing their own colors?
(Also- from a curvy gal–for your one bridesmaid that isn’t happy with any yet- I’d suggest if you can – take her shopping privately. And maybe see if you can use/borrow dark or skin color bras that have convertible straps for trying on different styles. I could almost promise you that she will find options she likes more if she’s not comparing herself to other girls right then and there and can really see what it will look like without bra straps so visible.
& random but I have a cardinal rule of no socks when trying on dresses and skirts. They can really throw off the look. So I would also have her bring some shoes/heels that will give her a better feel for how lovely she will look, too.)
Post # 7
Kelly6871 : Those aren’t the colors. That’s just what the store had available to try on. The idea is that they would be in “wine”, “sangria”, and “plum”. 2 girls in each color. Similar to the inspo picture I posted. That may be a good option. If I just pick one color so they can wear whatever dress they want. The style differences won’t look bad if they are the same color. I really like the look of the 3 colors though :/
catladyhollie : Narrowing it down a bit and letting them chose like that might be a great idea. Thank you!
fredthebasil : Ummm they don’t have to match that’s the point of mismatched dresses. They are all wearing different dresses (likely of their choosing) in 3 different colors. Did you miss that part? I do however want them to look “cohesive” as do they. GTFO of here with the “they aren’t props” BS. I have NEVER treated them like props. Save that comment for some bridezilla demanding everyone wear skin tight $500 sequin gowns, with matching hair and nails at the BM’s expense. Traditionally BM’s wear matching dresses in the exact same color. Mismatch colors and dresses are a relatively newer trend which I love because it gives the Bridesmaid or Best Man more say-so.
deedee2016 : I totally agree! We already planned a separate shopping trip for us. I bought fabric swatches from David’s Bridal in the wedding colors too so we can shop anywhere. David’s didn’t have much in her size which broke my heart. You have some great tips!! Thank you so much.
Post # 8
It’s hard to picture in the wrong colors.. if the girls like the cuts, I think it’s NBD that they’re quite different… as long as the color scheme co-ordinates better in the end it’s not a big deal. At least, I don’t think so.
Post # 9
This might be hard to see from this picture (I haven’t gotten my pro ones back yet) but all my girls wore mismatched, long black dresses, all from DB and my girls wore almost all the dresses your girls tried on, but long.. Here’s a pic to get an idea. I think they all looked great together! I honestly think the ones your girls chose (in the right colors) will look great!
Post # 10
I took my girls to Davids and decided on the wine color and long lenth. Then from there it was between fabrics. I would remove the lace dresses as an option. They all seem fond of the flowier fabrics. As long as they are of similar length, fabric, and color palette you will be good to go!
Post # 11
Maybe this mix could work for your BMs?
Second dress from Genuine People; last dress from Shabby Apple; the rest from Asos.
Post # 12
I’d just give a length and a colour. Maybe a fabric to help if you want.
Post # 13
I think the last photo collage looks the best, but the colors need to be more cohesive. IMO the key to having mismatch dresses look cohesive is to have the same length, fabric, (which it looks like the dresses are in that last photo- except the purple one shoulder that the Bridesmaid or Best Man doesn’t like) and then choose similar colors with different necklines. You’re close!
Post # 14
I tried to do mismatched outfits in a range of colors, but everyone just ended up picking the same color. I think the key to going this way is to set firm parameters (pick one color & length) and then trust them to figure the rest out. Pinterest has a lot of cute, photogenic ideas for mismatched dresses, but organizing a group of real people with opinions and tastes is much harder than it looks.
Post # 15
Once the dresses are in the right colors they will look good. Especially, like others have said, if they are in similar fabrics.
Also, bridesmaids always look better if they are in a dress they like.
I don’t think short dressess look quite as good mismatched as long in pics since the hemlines can be all over the place.