Post # 1
So, I have a question…
My sister-in law is getting married February of 2021- I am in the wedding party. My husband and I are going to try and start a family next month.
My dillema is… when we go and start looking for wedding dresses, hopefully I will be pregnant. That’s the dillemma- because I will not be pregant ( If it happens right away, fingers crossed) by when she gets married.
It takes a little time for the dresses to come in after ordering ( usually) if not off the rack.
When should I purchase my dress? Before we plan to get pregnant?
Should I search for mine NOW and hope I’mthe same size by the time the wedding comes? After I get pregant and have the baby ( which will be close)
Has anyone had the same problem? Even with wedding dresses?
Any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 2
Well, it doesn’t take longer to order and receive a dress than it takes to conceive, grow, and birth a human baby, so I would say you still have a pretty big window of time. A few months max is fine, less if you’re willing to pay rush shipping.
How long it takes a dress to come in depends on the manufacturer, but a lot of shops inflate that (whether it’s just wiggle room to be safe or scare tactics to makes a sale). And a lot of this will depend on whether your SIL is going to be flexible (i.e. everyone just pick out a dress you like in these colors) or semi-flexible (i.e. everyone has to pick from these three styles by this manufacturer in this color), or wants complete decision-making authority over the dress (i.e. you must pick this dress in this color by this designer). And if it’s the latter, then is that dress going to be fitted or flowing such that it can hide some weight fluctuation. If it’s the former then I would hold off as long as possible in ordering (check with the store on timeframes – you can’t guarantee you will be the exact same measurements or that you won’t actually be pregnant) or just let her know that you aren’t comfortable committing to a size as you expect your weight to fluctuate and see if she’ll go the flexible or semi-flexible route where you can pick a dress that will work if your weight fluctuates or at least pick a dress that isn’t likely to be discontinued any time soon.
Post # 3
annabananabee : Thank you! She is pretty flexible and wants us to feel as comfortable as possible with our dress. She will let us pick what we want out and understands everyone’s body is different. I will probably do what you’ve suggested. My wedding gown came in in 4 months and took a month to be altered. I just wasnt sure. But thanks for you’re quick response!
Post # 4
sarahjc9588 : are you planning on breastfeeding? I only ask because the first two months postpartum when building a milk supply I was a solid two+ cup sizes up from usual. Size has calmed down a bit now that my baby is five months and my supply is set, but it will really make a difference which month you give birth for how the top of a dress will fit. I’d wait to shop until you’re pregnant (fingers crossed for a baby for you!)
Post # 5
I’d wait as long as possible then buy a dress a size or two bigger than normal. Preferably a dress that is bump friendly…. if it’s soon after delivery you might still look a little pregnant. They can alter down but making bigger is harder.
Post # 6
gryffinfoot : Thank you! Yes, I am planning to breastfeed. Good advice, thank you