Post # 1
Has anyone experienced an unhappy Maid/Matron of Honor because she doesn’t like the dress picked out for the wedding? I know it’s my wedding and ultimately I will pick dresses that I want but I feel I should keep her opinion in mind. I’ve picked a JCREW dress but she claims she doesn’t look good in light colors and wants me to change it. I want her to be happy on my big day. Thoughts?
Post # 3
It’s ultimately your decision but it would be nice to make sure that it is a dress she looks good in.
No one wants to look bad at a wedding. Especially when you’re going to be in dozens of pics.
I do not look good in light colors/pastels so I feel for her. Any way she could wear a different color?
Do you have a pic of the dress?
Post # 4
I would wear a burlap sack if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man and my friend asked me to. However, when selecting Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for my ladies, I decided on a color, and let them pick their own style/fabric/length. It is more important to me for them to be comfortable and happy on my wedding day than it is for me to have matchy-matchy cookie cutter BMs.
Since she is the Maid/Matron of Honor, is it possible to get her dress in a darker version of the color you picked? She will still blend in with the rest of the bridal party, but stand out a little bit as Maid/Matron of Honor… but honestly, it’s your wedding and you can pick a dress and she can suck it up.
Post # 5
I get so sad when I see brides getting yanked around by choosy bridesmaids – I think if you put a lot of thought into what was reasonable (both look and cost) for your bridesmaids, they can suck it up if they don’t like light colors, or sweetheart necklines, or sashes, or whatever is their own personal preference. It’s not like you deliberately chose something she would look bad in! You clearly think it would look good, or you wouldn’t have chosen it!
She’s the Maid/Matron of Honor, so if her dress is slightly different (a darker hue) it will still look alright, but change it ONLY if you want to.
Post # 6
Thanks for all the feeback ladies! The Maid/Matron of Honor dress from the CREW is below with the following pictures for my bridesmaids – styles and even colors are not set but I really want a more down-to-earth, rustic wedding. It’s in an old brick train depot that’s been converted to a market.