Post # 1
My Bridal party ended up being significantly larger than i had ever wanted (I wanted 3 and now i have 9) which i think will end up being very fun in the end…
However! I am concerned about the dresses.
I am having a Nightmare before Christmas themed Wedding and so my colours are purple, white, and black. I’m wanting purple dresses with some form of black on them and had originally wanted to find something a little “fun” or “theatrical” to suit the theme but I’m worried the girls will hate the dresses…I guess I’m wanting to avoid conflict
How did you choose your bridesmaid dresses??
Post # 3
I would give your bridesmaids an idea of what you are looking for before you go shopping. I had a few pictures with, that they all looked at before we went shopping. I would make sure you don’t get swept up in the day, and make a decision you will regret based on what they want. It is still your wedding. I’ve been in several weddings, and I think the understanding is, when you agree to be a bridesmaid, you wear what the bride wants. BM’s never wear the dress again, so don’t worry about that. Good luck! It sounds like a really fun theme.
Post # 4
I chose plum (chiffon material) by bill levkoff and let each girl choose there own style. I also made sure they liked the brand and they had imput in the final color decision because i was too confused to pick on my own colors (the color i originally chose was a soft pink and washed them all out terribly…..and theyre my friends and didnt want them to look horrible! haha)
Post # 5
@Tallulah_: If you’re worried about whether the girls would like their dresses or not, you might consider choosing whether you want long or short dresses, select a specific shade of purple and let the girls select at some place like David’s Bridal or Alfred Angelo, a dress they each like but all in the same length and hue for continuity.
Post # 6
Thank you for the great responses ladies!
I know the girls wil never wear the dressed again but I’d like them to at least feel good in what they’re wearing on my wedding day..especially standing up infront of a crowd haha
Does anybody else have input?
Post # 7
I knew what dress I liked, it was a matter of short/long. I basically let them choose the long one that most wanted but ultimately picked the dress. I found the cheapest place for them to order it. It’s one day and I know I am willing to wear whatever my other friend wants me to in her wedding to show my support/love so I expected the same consideration.
I’d say it depends how you want your pictures to look. I personally like bridesmaids in the same thing, but since you’re wedding is a little creative it might be in-theme to have different stuff going on. To me, you can always ask for input but they’ll never all agree 100% so take their thoughts into consideration but it’s up to you.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I absolutely regret letting mine pick their own– well, I haven’t gotten married yet so maybe it will work out. I let them choose from 3 and they picked one I didn’t actually like that much (I thought they wouldn’t pick it, my fault though I guess) and they look cheap and awful.
I would pick one or two you LOVE and make them get it. If it’s a theme wedding, they’re definitely never going to wear it again, let’s be honest, so just pick it so it’s easy on them. Providing just a color and style is actually harder for my girls from what I’ve heard. I would have no idea what to do if you said Nightmare Before Christmas theme.
Post # 9
My fiancée picked a dress and told them where to order it, but she picked one they can wear different ways. I don’t remember what it’s called. So it’s the same colour, and general style, but they can wrap it up as strapless, or halter, or one shoulder, or both shoulders.
Post # 10
Yeah I think given your theme, going about choosing dresses the”usual” way won’t really apply, you know? I mean, normally you’d have a single color or color scheme and length, and go from there. But with Nightmare Before Christmas…i’d have no idea really. Just do whatever you want to, I guess! I would think if your BMs agreed to stand up for you they know that you’re not doing a traditional theme
Post # 11
So I had planned on having my girls wear different dresses in the same color (black) but when I went shopping with two of them, they both ended up picking the same dress. So now all four of my bridesmaids will be in the same dress. I will say, it ended up being a bit of a hassle starting off saying I would let them chose their dress. When I first said I’d chose a color, fabric, and designer apparently I wasn’t clear and one of my bridesmaids assumed I meant anything in black and was planning on getting whatever was on sale the day she decided to buy at either David’s Bridal or Macy’s or something like that. She’s actually rather pissed off at me right now. So I guess my advice would be to really think hard before committing to a plan of action and telling your girls about it. It can cause lots of headache if you end up changing your mind later.
Post # 12
i have 3 bm.. to save them and myself some headache I only ask them whetherlong or short dress and picked the dresses from there.. long with straps as straps flatters everyone.. if the cut is too low for them they can pinch it up.. got their sizes and bought it for them.. all in all no complaints 🙂
Post # 13
With the exception of 1 out of my 6 bridesmaids, they were all pretty receptive to the idea of me choosing the dress. So I had my Maid/Matron of Honor, 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man and my sister try on some dresses and we all agreed on one in the end. Worked out okay for us! 🙂 If I were to do it again, I’d love to do the mismatched thing though!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I tried to tell my girls that we’d pick a designer/color/material and they could all wear which style they liked best, but they all ended up loving the same dang styles. So, they’re wearing the same dress, but they had the option. I felt too bridezilla-y saying “this is the dress, go buy it” (I also bought my girls’ dresses)
Post # 15
With 9 bridesmaids, the chances of them all liking what you pick, or all coming to a joint decision about what to pick, is fairly remote.
So I think you should do what the PPs suggest – pick a store, colour and fabric and let them choose from those.
If they are too indecisive to cope with that then maybe narrow it down to 3 or 4 styles and let them pick from those.
And maybe go for a black sash to unify the look.
Post # 16
I think with 9 girls, unless they are all similar in height/body shape etc., it will be hard to find one dress that looks good on everybody. If you pick a designer so the colour and fabric are the same and let the girls pick the style that works best for them it will work out.
I only have three girls, but I let them pick the dres style in a certain fabric and colour and they were all happy. I really dislike when on Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids there is always one girl who would look terrible in the dress the bride loves and they tell her to shut up and do what the bride says. I think the bride should be able to have her overall vision, but if one of the girls is going to look awful in the dress you need to let it go.