(Closed) Bridesmaid dresses and dealing with a Mom-zilla

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think you’re out of line.  There were a few times my mom and my Mother-In-Law tried to make strong suggestions to my husband and I during our planning, and we just said, “No, this is how we’re doing it”.  Mother-In-Law was bitter and held a grudge, but my mom was reasonable and realized it’s our wedding, not hers.  I think if I had given in, I would have been disappointed and not enjoyed my wedding the way I wanted to.  It’s your wedding, your bridesmaids, and your mom doesn’t have to wear the dress.

If you’re really worried about how it looked to your wedding party, just discuss it with them later.  Say something like, “I’m sorry if I came off as rude or harsh, but my mom has been doing _____.”  I’m sure they’ll understand.

ETA: Beautiful Bridesmaid or Best Man dress by the way!

Post # 4
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I can say that I had a mom-zilla when I was getting married too. There are going to be times when you have to pick and choose your battles. Things that don’t matter, give in to and other things (like the color and style of your bridesmaid dresses), fight for.

My mom also thought that it was her day too, and really made the day about what she wanted for her daughter and not what I wanted. There weren’t a lot of things that I cared about, so I just went with the flow for a lot of decisions, but there were things that I put my foot down for. My dress and my bridemaid dresses were some of those things.

I’m sorry that you’ve had to endure her comments and listen to her call you fat in wedding dresses. No one should ever have to go through something like that. The best thing I can say is to try to let her comments roll off of your back and don’t let them bother you. She’s trying to get a reaction out of you so that you’ll choose what she wants you to choose. Just stick to your guns and fight the battles worth fighting.

Post # 7
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@posh_princess: You’re definitely not alone! I would talk to your other bridesmaids just to let them know that your mom was being overbearing earlier and not to take too much offense to it. Who knows, they might find that tip useful when trying to plan other events for you as well, so you might be doing them all a favor by warning them!

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