Post # 1
So I know that traditionally the bridesmaids pay for their own dress and even hair/makeup, but I was thinking of paying for their hair/makeup since I’ll be hiring one person to do mine and there’s sort of a package discount to just pay for all their hair/makeup as well.
But as for the dress, I’m torn. They already know they’re expected to pay for their own dress, but now I’m thinking that the bridesmaid dress can be my bridesmaid gift to them.
What are people’s thoughts on that? And if I do end up deciding to buy the bridesmaid dresses, am I still expected to get them a bridesmaid gift?
Thanks for everyone’s thoughts!
Post # 3
WOW! Hope you don’t have a large bridal party. That’s alot to put on y ourself
What if you agreed to pay for half of the cost?
Post # 4
In my opinion, if you were to buy them the dress, I would let them pay for their own hair and makeup if they want it done professionally. I don’t think you need to get them anything else, that’s an awesome gift! Even paying for just the hair and makeup is a wonderful gift that I’m sure they would appreciate!
Post # 5
I think the bridesmaids would enjoy getting a little gift to open- I know I would. It is just not the same if you don’t actually get to open something. So I think even if you buy their dresses, a little gift to open would be good.
Post # 6
I bought my girls their dress (I found them for $32 on clearance) and I’m still getting them a gift. To each their own. I think pitching in for the dress is a great idea though.
Post # 7
I think its a wonderful idea. I put $200 towards each of my girls’ dresses and they were so grateful. I’m also still giving them the following gifts though:
1), Custom letterpress stationary
2). Flip Video cameras
3). Custom made cluthces
4). Custom made earrings with semi-precious gems
Post # 8
I have been a bridesmaid 9 times and my dress was paid for once (by my Mom/Sister) for my Sister’s wedding. All the other times I had to pay for my own dress and it does get costly, especially if you have have it altered or get a special bra for it. I think if you can afford to pay for their dresses, that would be awesome. I would much rather have my dress paid for then get a gift of purse or lotion or something. I had one friend offer to pay for my shoes and stuff but she always paid for things for me when we went out in the past when I was in colelge so I didn’t want her top pay in that case. All the other cases, it would have been so nice. One time I had to get as second job to pay for bridesmaid expenses. I had two weddings one month a part, both out of town. If you can’t afford to pay for them all, pay for the ones coming out of town since they have so many more expenses than the ones locally.
On that note, I am getting married in Fiji and just my fiance and I are going so all my would be bridesmaids lucked out with no major expenses!
Post # 9
Mrs. Louboutin — Can I be in your party?! lol
I think it would be a great gift to pay for their dresses (or part of the cost). I plan to do that for my girls because I know the styles I am looking for are on the high side for them. I will probably also get them something to open but just something small but meaningful. I agree with others, though; if you pay for their dresses, they can pay for their own hair/makeup or opt to do it themselves. Or even just pay for their hair/makeup.
Post # 10
While it’s certainly generous to pay for their dresses, it isn’t something they will likely wear again. Which is why alot of brides tend to get a thank you gift that they will actually use and keep after the wedding is over that is not wedding-related. But if that is what you want to give them, then don’t let anyone stop you. In that case, write a personalized heartfelt note for each attendant.