Post # 1
As I’m sure is the same with all brides, I have 4 completely different body types in my bridal party. One is petite in height, but larger otherwise. Two are very slim and petite. Other is average. The larger girl is very self conscious about her arms. I have told the girls that I want them to be comfortable, so I’d pick the color and hem, and they could pick the style they were most comfortable in, with my approval of course. Larger maid is still very leary and worried. How do I calm her down?!? And is there anywhere that has bridesmaid dresses with short sleeves, or is going with a wrap the way to go? Tomorrow is d-day for shopping, and I’m stressed!!!
Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 3
I had the same issue. She was more comfortable in something that had thick straps (I was unable to find anything short sleeved) So she ended up buying a little bolero. That way she was comfortable.
Post # 4
I had a similar situation, 4 girls, all very different body types – I went with a convertible dress. That way they could tie the dress any way they liked and how they felt comfortable. It was a hit!
Alfred Angelo Separates may be a good option too – we did that for my aunt’s wedding that I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in. Some girls had sleeves, others strapless – it looked great in pics!
Post # 5
You can’t solve people’s body issues for them and you are doing the nicest thing possible which is allowing them to pick their own style. When I agree to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I know that it involves getting measured, standing next to skinnier girls, getting photographed, bearing my arms, sometimes a less-than-flattering cut/color etc. All of that brings me anxiety. But it’s MY anxiety to deal with; not the bride’s.
So in short, be gentle and supportive and lend her an ear when she needs one, but remember she’s an adult and she agreed to be your bridesmaid. Let her handle her own issues.
Oh, and one more thing: the one thing you CAN do is cultivate a spirit of body acceptance. Sounds cheesy but what it means is that when you go to try on dresses, there should be no negative, self-depreciating comments. Remember that clothes should fit their wearers, not the other way around. So if something doesn’t fit right, acknowledge it’s not doing the girl any favors, but don’t allow any “If only I didn’t eat that cake” or “Gosh, my stomach’s huge” or “I hate my arms” crap from any of your girls. Make it your personal mission to be unwaveringly positive about each girl AND about your own body when YOU dress shop.
Post # 6
Well, shopping on Saturday for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses went ok!! Three of the four were fine. The one Bridesmaid or Best Man who I thought was going to be a pill, she did ok. She took the longest, but she didn’t have a meltdown, THANK GOD, and I think she actually likes her dress and wrap!!! Another mission accomplished! Now if only I could get the fiance to get his addresses together for his friends for my save the date cards, we could get another thing ticked off the list!!!
Post # 7
@JennyW1: I completely agree with you. That is great advice.