Post # 1
So here’s the basic run down. The bride ordered our dresses online and guessed at our sizing so when they came in they’re all way too big! They’re also awful looking and not flattering on any of us. We can’t return or exchange them so we have to get them altered.
However to alter these hideous dresses would be between 100-200 dollars! Now the bride is saying she’ll alter them herself.
One of the bridesmaids thinks we should just put our foot down and tell the bride these dresses are awful and there’s no way she can alter them herself.
I’m more of the mind set that it’s her wedding and if she wants to do the work to let her.
Any thoughts or advice?
Post # 2
The bride didn’t bother to ask you all what your sizes are? Is she experienced with alterations? This is hard to believe.
Post # 3
There weren’t very many sizes available so she grabbed the smallest ones but they’re still too big.
She does have experience making her own dresses and Halloween costumes and the like, with enough time I’m sure she could do it. However we’re less then two months out from the wedding and it doesn’t seem like enough time. futuremrs2020 :
Post # 4
It’s her wedding and if she wants to alter them I say so be it! Less work for you. Realistically, she made the mistake of purchasing dresses no one had tried on by just “grabbing sizes” (non refundable dresses too). I don’t think the bridesmaids should then have to pay to fix this.
Post # 5
That’s so weird, I’m honestly shocked that a bride would do that lol. That would stress me out so badly.
Anyways, did she pay for the dresse? If so I’d honestly shell out $100-200 to get it professionally altered. Even if everyone else doesn’t, I wouldnt want to take the risk and end up wearing a dress that didn’t fit me properly and feel all self conscious in it all day.
Post # 6
We’re supposed to pay her back for the dresses eventually.
i would’ve been fine with 100$ for alterations, but they were saying at LEAST 150$ for mine (and mine had the least alterations)
Im thinking I’ll let her do the alterations, and just be on emergency stand by in case something goes wrong. I have zero sewing talents so maybe I’ll just hold a pin cushion for her or something in a sad attempt to help.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains
If the dresses aren’t flattering, well they aren’t your wedding pics and the bride will reap what she will literally sew.
If she’s willing to foot the bill then I think you just have to grin and bear it. Its a lot of work for her to do the alterations. I always told friends that if I were in their wedding I would wear whatever they want me to and if its a potato sack then I will rock it. If your concern is more about the timing, then I think all you can do is try to be supportive and let her work.
Post # 8
It is her problem to fix. Let her have at it.
I also would not be paying her for a dress I had zero input on and was not ordered to fit me. This wasn’t a loan or a favor. She got what she wanted – this is her responsibility to finance and fix.
Post # 9
I would definitely let her fix them herself. I would rather wear a too large dress for one day in someone else’s wedding than pay over $150 in alterations. It sounds like she feels bad about the situation and wants to make it right without inconveniencing you.