Post # 1
When I originally started wedding planning, I was 100% sure I wanted long, chiffon bridesmaid dresses. I like the level of formality and FI and I are going for a classic, elegant vibe.
Then I started looking for bridesmaid dresses and upon realizing how expensive they are, I convinced myself that short dresses were fine because I wanted the dresses to be as inexpensive as possible for the girls.
So I decided on short dresses…but told MOH she could wear long if she wanted (because I know she hates the way she looks in short dresses). That way MOH would have what she wanted and the other BMs would be spared the extra expense. MOH does want to wear the long dress, as I expected.
Now I’m sort of second-guessing myself. A) I still feel like I wanted that more formal feel and that short dresses may not jive with that. B) I’m a little worried that the one long dress will look strange in pictures.
Would I be a selfish butthole if I changed my mind and had them buy the long dresses? They are a bit more expensive (about $15), but they fit my original vision better, would look more uniform in pictures (the girls are all picking their own cut so I’m thinking maybe the length should all be the same after all), and I know my mom is planning on paying for the shower, so they won’t have that expense to deal with.
Post # 3
They are only $15 more? Then yes, I would have them get the dress you like and have the vision you were dreaming of. If it’s only that much you could even offer to help with some of it?
Post # 4
I don’t think a $15 difference is big enough to change your vision. I agree that long wedding dresses are more formal, and I think it would look a bit strange if only one of your girls was wearing a long dress.
If you’re that concerned about the price, mayb you can offer to pay the difference?
Post # 5
I have been toying with the same issue. I have 8 bridesmais and I am planning on buying the dresses if i can get them cheap enough. I agree that long dresses look more elegant and sophisticated and i think that if that is the what you envisioned then an extra $15 shouldn’t be an issue. Go with your heart….I’m now looking at longer dresses also haha
Post # 6
@LilySarah: I don’t think it would look weird if the MOH was the only one in a long dress – in a way, it would serve to make her stand out more from the bridesmaids. Just Google “maid of honor different dress” for heaps of pics. A lot of them have MOHs wearing completely different dresses to the bridesmaids, so a difference in length isn’t as drastic as you may think.
Post # 7
@LilySarah: $15 more isnt a big deal. It’s your wedding do what you want and get the long dresses.
Post # 8
We chose long AND short. I only have 2 attendants but MOH is in a long dress and my BM is in the short!
Post # 9
15 dollars isn’t a lot so I would do whatever you want. However, short dresses can be just as formal as long and I don’t think it will be weird to have the moh in long. most people actually do prefer short dresses because they might be rewearable where long dresses probably not and in July they will probably be thankful for them. Maybe ask your bridesmaids about it. I was set on long gowns and I didn’t like how they looked on my bridesmaids at all
Post # 10
I had one girl in a long dress and the other three in short. I left the style completely up to them, and one BM wanted a long dress; it looked fine.
Post # 11
@LilySarah: I don’t think $15 bucks is too much.
Post # 12
I think given the fairly minimal cost involved, I would opt for long dresses. Personally I prefer bridesmaids in long gowns.