(Closed) bridesmaid dresses stress/worry

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding once where the bride let us choose dresses, but she did give us a bit more direction by saying they should all be long. It wound up looking great, and those of us in the wedding party really appreciated being able to pick out dresses that we liked and that fit our budgets.   I’ve never worn mine again (I’m not a fan of floor length dresses), but it’s definitely my favorite of all bridesmaid dresses I’ve worn!  If you’re worried about it, perhaps you can give them a bit more guidance (length, type of straps, etc.), or suggest that they send you pictures of dresses they’re considering.  Or if they live near you, maybe you can invite them to go shopping together with you, and make it a fun day with lunch or drinks or something. 

Post # 4
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you should be prepare that you will get a lot of shades from pink to burgandy since that image has a lot of color in it. Can you just open up MSWord or something and identify one color? Or as the PP said, add a few additional suggestions for the dress. That way eveb if they aren’t all the same color at least they will all have a common element (length, straps,material etc)

Post # 5
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I think it will look awesome! I love the idea of a slight variety on the color of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, you can definitely find some inspiration ideas of brides who have gone that route out on the internet, it’s a popular choice for bridesmaid’s right now!


Post # 6
7 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

Generally, this tends to look really nice. I’ve seen lots of pictures of BMs all wearing different shades of one color, or even multiple colors (that are complementary) and it looks really good.

Here’s what I’d do. Go to the fabric store. Look at the fabrics, ribbons, etc. Find a swatch of fabric or ribbon in the color you have in mind. Buy enough of that fabric/ribbon so that you can give a small swatch to each girl. That way, they can take that swatch with them when they shop and hold it up to the dress they like. Ask them to choose a dress in a color that is complementary to that swatch and within the same tone (but doesn’t have to match precisely).

I’d also set a few basic guidelines in terms of style, just so you have some uniformity. For instance, floor length, knee length, mid-calf, etc. Also, your preference towards strapless, sleeves, straps, etc. You could also specify that you want it to be a solid color (no patterns or other colors on the dress). Or that you don’t want sequins or beads (or only want subtle sequins/beads). Or that you’d prefer nothing super tight/form-fitting. Or that you don’t want velvet or cotton or whatever. Setting a few guidelines like this can actually be helpful to your BMs too! That way, they feel better that they’re picking out something that will make both of you happy. And, of course, you can tell them that if they’d like your input or for you to go shopping with them, that you’re happy to do so.

Just remember though that if you tell them to pick anything, and don’t give them guidelines, you can’t really complain when what they pick is something you hate. Smile

Post # 7
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am giving my girls a guideline. Actually a little more than that, but I told them to order from ariadress.com, it must be a knee length, and it must be in a certain shade, to be determined, as i’m waiting for fabric swatches. But i’ve seen the dresses, i told them the 4 on the site i absolutely hate, and that gives them quite a choice still!


Post # 8
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That picture has about 5 shades of color in it. Do you have a David’s Bridal where you live? You can pick out a color there and buy a swatch for $1 a piece. You can then take your swatch to a paint store and find a matching paint swatch (for free) to hand out to the girls.

I don’t think it’d be too bad if that’s what you want though. Here is an example of what it’d look like


Post # 9
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I like the idea of having some variation and think it adds visual interest.  I wouldn’t be worried at all.

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