(Closed) Bridesmaid Drop Out

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am sorry to hear that she has backed out – do you feel like the sides need to be even? My fiance and I decided we would rather just have who we wanted and stopped worrying about the numbers – I realize that not everyone would feel comfortable with this, but I haven’t given it another thought – just an option to consider.

 

 

Post # 5
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry she backed out. *hugs* I’d be pretty sad, too. One of my firends said no when I asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man becuase she wasn’t sure about getting time off work (more than a year in advance). We just decided to keep who we wanted and not worry about numbers. If you don’t want a back up, then you don’t have to ask anyone.

Post # 7
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, that would make it worse. I’m sorry she made you feel that way! She should have talked to you about it first!

Post # 8
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I understand and I am sorry you are feeling hurt ~ is your fiance ok with his sister’s decision and father’s reaction?

Post # 10
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

She definitely should’ve called you! Your wedding isn’t until October! How does she know she’ll even have a Friday class next semester?? It all sounds a little odd to me, especially since no one took the time to talk to you or tell you themself! I’m sorry, girl 🙁 I would be hurt too!

Post # 12
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That sucks. I’m sorry. 🙁

Post # 14
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Wow! SO immature. I know you want a relationship with her and would love to have her in the wedding, but it sounds to me like  she would  just cause stress for you by being in the wedding! Maybe it’s a good thing that she dropped out….

Post # 15
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know exactly how you feel. I asked my Future Sister-In-Law to be a bridesmaid and she said no. I mean she had good excuses and she offered to help out at the wedding, but I felt rejected never the less. Well, I hope she can at least show up to your wedding ceremony or at least the reception. Good luck and congrats!

Post # 16
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637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, I’m sorry you have to deal with her as a Future Sister-In-Law, but hopefully she will get better as she matures.  I am sorry, but I don’t know ANY 3rd year student that is THAT serious about school that they never miss a Friday class.  Lots of classes aren’t even on Friday, most don’t take roll, and even those for whom participation is important (for instance I have one class that I can’t miss ANY classes without advanced approval), being in your brother’s wedding would definitely count.  So, I can’t even see why she is being that way, and the way your Future Father-In-Law is handling it is totally inappropriate.  I’m really glad that you and your Fiance are growing together as a result of this.  At least that is a good outcome that you can be very proud of!!

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