- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
i’m wondering if i should still invite a bridesmaid that dropped out from our wedding party to the wedding..
Let me explain before this gets heated up.
Bridesmaid B is what we will call her.
OK so from the begining i had asked all the bridesmaids what there budget was everyone said $200 for the dress and $100 for flowers.
ok so i kept that in mind i would send pictures of certain dresses to them and they all voted on one the dress was $170 bridesmaid B starts saying no she doesnt like it its not very elegant and the price is to high i ask her again whats the highest you want to spend this time she says $150
ok fine i find 2 dresses around 150 a short one for $130 and a long one for $150 she loved the long one everyone else voted for the short one she throws a fit saying she will not wear it or that she might get it altered into a long dress i say no B the only one that will have a different dress will be Maid/Matron of Honor and she says fine but only for you not because i want to still throws a fit i tell all the girls to buy the long dress. B asks how much will flowers be and i tell her i will let her know next week when i see the florist
next week i tell the girls how much the bouqets will be ($50) everyone agrees say they will send a check
the following week B txts me saying she will end up paying $600 for my wedding and its to much that she is doing me a favor by being in my wedding and i was totally confused by what she was saying i ask her were paying 10k for our wedding she says yea thats my point its your wedding not mine i got mad told Fiance and he got mad too i ask B if she wanted me to cough up money or why she was txting me regarding costs which she had over exaggerated.and she did not reply
i hear from one of my groomsmen and bridesmaid that bridesmaid B had been talking bad about our wedding and saying it wasnt fair that she paying so much, my dear groomsman offered to help her financially she didnt accept
just so you know:
dress $150 (which she choose the most expensive one)
shoes (of there choice as long as there gold)
Hair/makeup (she was doing her own)
Hotel (i am paying for wedding party)
travel (girls were carpooling its only a 3 hour drive $40 will fill up there car the whole way 4 girls $10 each)
Meals (night before we are treating, day of wedding we are treating, morning after my paretns are treating)
were the heck is she getting $600?!?!?
96 days till my wedding dead line to order dress is a week away and she txts me saying sh can not be in my wedding and says its my fault for her not being able to be in another friends wedding.
I had to find another bridesmaid in 48 hours and get her to order her dress asap luckily i did but i shead sooo many tears and was stressed out to the max those 2 days crying to my groomsman (my brother) and my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) luckily its all seatled now and everyone has there dress.
From the day she sent me that txt she has not spoken to me 🙁
But now i am mailing invites today and am wondering if i should send her one even tho she complained about costs to go over there…
what do you think bees?? if this happend to you how would you handle this if this happened to you??