(Closed) Bridesmaid dropout, should she be invited to wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should Bridesmaid B be invited to the wedding?
    Yes : (62 votes)
    70 %
    No : (22 votes)
    25 %
    Other (explain below) : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    808 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If the friendship is lost, I wouldn’t bother sending her one.

    Post # 4
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    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would still invite her as a guest, I think if you don’t you will be ending the relationship. Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve never heard of the bridesmaids paying for their boquets. The dress and shoes I can understand them paying for because they get to keep it.

    Post # 5
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Some people aren’t just cut out to be BMs. Although I will admit, I would have issues if I had to pay for my own bouquet. I have never heard of that before.

    She gave you 3 months notice which I think is plenty of time. If you no longer want to be her friend, don’t invite her. However, if she has been a friend to you in every other situation except the wedding, send her an invite. Who knows…she may not even accept.

    Post # 6
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    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If she meant enough to you that you wanted her in your wedding party, she should be invited to the wedding.  Just because she’s being a bitch right now doesn’t mean she won’t get over it and one day you’ll regret that she wasn’t there.

    EDIT: I had never heard of the bouquet thing either, but I thought it was just yet another one of those things that I don’t know about weddings.  I think it’s weird enough that they have to pay for their own dresses.  *shrug*

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man drop out and I still invited her. I do have one question though-why are they paying for their flowers?

    Post # 8
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    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Sorry you have to deal with this.  If she was close enough to ask to be a bridesmaid, I would be the bigger person and send her the invite.  Hopefully with time, you two can make up and it would be a shame to not invite her to the wedding in the meantime.  If she doesn’t come, her loss. 

    Post # 9
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i didnt know bm’s paid for their own flowers?  every wedding ive been a part of/helped out the bride has always paid for them – interesting

    as far as the invite thing im guessing she is stressed about funds and thats always a difficult thing to discuss openly – i dont think thats a good reason to throw away a friendship so i would invite her and let her make the decision, at least you will know that you have always tried to to meet her halfway.  goodluck!

     

    Post # 10
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve never heard of bridesmaids paying for their flowers either.

    If she was close enough to you to ask her to be a bridesmaid, then she is a close friend and she should be invited to the wedding, even if she dropped out of the wedding for financial reasons.  

    Post # 10
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    @ManciasToBe:Of course you invite her. It seems a little petty to stop being friends because she does not want to be in your wedding.

    Post # 11
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    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree that you should still invite her, and I’m also confused on why the bridesmaids are paying for their own flowers.

    Post # 12
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    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    if i would be in the situations i’ll probably still invite her just to be “civil” but you have to feel good on your wedding day so if you don’t wish her there, don’t invite her

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    If she was a good enough friend to be asked to be a bridesmaid, I would still invite her as a guest. I think in the end she will feel bad that she missed out on being there for you over $600 -ha.

    But really… if you’re a good friend to someone and you would like to continue the relationship, giving your friend the best day of her life is priceless. At least that’s what I think when I spend all my $$ on my good friends’ weddings. 🙂 

     

     

     

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Ah!  Not to be picky, but that was really hard to read without any periods!

    On that note, I think you should still invite her.  But I also have never heard of bridesmaids paying for their flowers.

    Post # 15
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would try to have some communication with her before sending the invite.  Since you seem open to possibly inviting her, maybe be the bigger peron and reach out and depending on how that goes, decide then whether to send her an invite or not.

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