Post # 1
I am getting married in 40 days. I have been planning my wedding since August 2011. When my Fiance proposed I was so excited. I asked five, who I thought of, as my closest girlfriends to be my bridesmaids. All of the women said yes to me. Then, one of them starting complaining about how we were going to do their hair. Then, she complained about the shoes that I chose. (Long story on that. She lives in another state, so I picked out some styles and texted and emailed photo’s. I tried them on and they were pretty and comfy and gave the girls some height. So, we chose them.). Then, she complained that she had no place to stay. So, I looked for a place. I already had four family members coming to stay in my living room, sharing one bathroom, so I could not put her up with us. She has an inheritance, so could have easily booked a condo. Anyway, I finally asked her if she really wanted to be in the wedding. She replied with a email that sounded like a job resignation. It was completely tactless and very hurtful. I wonder, what is wrong with people? I had been nothing but a kind friend to her up to this point. Now I want nothing more to do with her.
Post # 3
I’m sorry! Your going to find that weddings will bring out the worst of things 🙁
I am going to be a bridesmaid, and be the out-of-state one, and I will admit its difficult. Travel, work time off, not being able to be a part of it is rough. Plus finances! Your friend may have an inhertiance, but maybe its not really that easy?
Anyway, enough rambling. Perhaps you should call her and really have a heart to heart! Its hard to believe such a close friend would be random like that..perhaps she has some bad things going on or its something you guys could work out?
Post # 4
Agree with @Eva Peron: … call her
As you asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, one can assume that you guys are close friends, this is the type of conversation that needs to be had one-on-one… and not by email where you can’t pour out your hearts and heart the tone in her voice etc
Hopefully you can work it out
To be quite honest, if she has never been a BM before, she may have accepted the role without really knowing / understanding what it entails (being excited for you) … it is a commitment of time & money, some BMs don’t understand the full extent of that (shoes, dress, accessories, travel, hotels etc)