(Closed) bridesmaid dropped out of my wedding.. Feeling very hurt and betrayed

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

She sounds like a crappy friend and you’re probably lucky to be rid of her. Maybe you WERE being a bridezilla (you didn’t discuss what she complained about), and maybe she had reasons to complain – but even so, she should have complained to you, not other people. 

Be glad she’s out of the way and won’t ruin your wedding. If you don’t have time to replace her, that’s ok – it’s fine to have a different number of groomsmen than Bridesmaid or Best Man. If you can find a replacement that’s even better! Consider this a good learning experience- next time a friend runs her mouth off to friends, you need to sit down right away and deal with the problem right away. Maybe that would have prevented her being a massive jerk and talking about you with Lilly. Learn from this mistake and move on. 


Post # 18
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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VintageGirl1020 :  Stop giving her the power over how you feel. This is within your control.

Post # 20
10374 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

She isn’t ruining your wedding though, if anything, she’s done you a giant favor of having a stress free day without someone two faced in your pictures for years to come.

Wash your hands of her and move forward with excitement for your big day!

Post # 21
3807 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It’s for the best that she dropped out. The relationship has obviously turned very sour, why would you even want her up there with you? Can you honestly say you would have enjoyed her presence on the day? Been able to smile happily with her in photos? Doesn’t sound like it. Kick the drama to the curb and go ahead with your now less stressful wedding. She is not in any way ruining your wedding (yes she’s making things nasty now, but you don’t have to let thaat affect you on the day).

Post # 22
44 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

Gross. Thank goodness she’s gone. I hate that kind of stuff, rise above it and don’t get caught up in the frenzy. 

Post # 23
3679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hope it’s not the same friend that brought her family to your bridal shower and stuck you with a $250 bill. Sounds like you need new friends. 

Post # 24
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake

 In reading through your previous posts (as a pp stated) you sound extremely high maintenance at the very least! I would even go so far as saying you have most likely been acting like a bridezilla!! You have had several problems with this bridesmaid, your sister, you no longer like the shape of your diamond  (which you picked out), you don’t like how thick your band is…..my goodness!! Is there anything you DO actually like? Is there anyone left you haven’t argued with / wanted to kick out of the bridal party??

You may want to get yourself together & take a good, long, hard look at yourself & how you may have been contributing to all your problems before all your friends ghost you on your wedding day…

Post # 25
7362 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You are being so dramatic. You should have just dumped her the first time around. 

Count your blessings she’s dropped out. Stop giving her so much energy, you’ve gotta bigger fish to fry. 

Post # 26
763 posts
Busy bee

Agreed you need to breathe and find perspective.  But this “friend” sounds like a shit human being.  Be glad she’s gone and not in all your wedding pics like PP said.  

Bye, Felicia. 

Post # 27
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You are going to have a stroke before you are 30 if you don’t get a sense of perspective on life. 

Post # 28
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Do you REALLY want her in your wedding…?  Sounds like it wouldn’t be a great vibe….

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