(Closed) Bridesmaid Dropped Out (vent)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

You want to DISINVITE her bc she wont help pay for your extensions?!? I read everything and I understand you are mad she dropped out but it seems like you are more upset over her not giving you a measly $100. Maybe I am reading it wrong….

Post # 6
Member
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Elizabeth_A:  I’m confused how you were worried about her financial situation when in your wedding with the dress, however now that she’s not a bridesmaid you are asking if she’ll still give you $100? I feel like $100 for extentions when shes not even in the wedding is way to much to ask or accept for someone. I understand being angry becuase she said things and is making things complicated. I agree the walking down the aisle thing is ridiculous, and so is her being angry over you making sure she can afford it. 

Post # 8
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9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@gelaine22:  +1

OP, are you sure she dropped out because her husband wouldn’t let her walk with another man and she was fine with walking with another man, or because you wouldn’t let her walk alone? Even though she offered to help originally, perhaps she thought that since she dropped out of the wedding she wouldn’t be required to help.

Post # 9
Member
2499 posts
Buzzing bee

@Elizabeth_A:  Even if she offered you the $100 earlier, you shouldn’t chase that money down. If she wanted to give you the money, she would have offered it again. I agree that it’s unreasonable of her to not want to walk with someone other than her husband, but I don’t think you should be this offended by the situation.

Post # 10
Member
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Okay first of all, it’s very disturbing that her husband would “disallow” her from being in a wedding because she is going to walk beside another man. wtf.

Secondly, don’t disinvite her. Just don’t expect any more help from her. Also, asking for the money was rude – you should have waited for her to offer, or asked how else she would like to help out.

Post # 12
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2499 posts
Buzzing bee

@Elizabeth_A:  You should have included that in your original post. It still doesn’t change my opinion that you should NOT have asked her to pony up the money.

Post # 14
Member
8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I honestly think you are BOTH being unreasonable.

Post # 15
Member
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A lot of people here are really focusing on the $100…

OP, it’s a really major decision to “disinvite” someone. I’d still invite her, but maybe not expect much from her in the future. Some people deal with pressure well, others not so well. It seems very odd that her husband wouldn’t allow her to walk with someone. I’m not sure if she’s telling the truth – she might have just wanted to be out of the bridal party.

I don’t think you should hold your breath waiting to hear back from her.

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