(Closed) Bridesmaid Dropped Out (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Elizabeth_A:  She will still be there 🙂 Just not as a Bridesmaid or Best Man

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Maybe I’m crazy or all my friends have just done it weird, but I thought it was standard proceedure to walk with someone who isn’t you husband? The Fiance picks his GM’s based off who are his closest friends, and the bride picks her BM’s the same way, then they walk together- not because someone is married to someone. 

But that being beside the point. I agree with everyone that asking for the $100 was rude, even if she offered to help again. But then again if that’s the way your friendship works, then who are we to say it’s rude if that’s the norm between you two.

I think uninviting her is a bit extreme. Since she offered to helop in the beginning, and you asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man instead, is it possible she never actually wanted to be in the wedding and was looking for an out? Uninviting someone who you’ve been friends with for so long and through so much is a big decision- it could totally ruin the friendship. Her freaking out on you like she has is completely uncalled for, but is it possible you were being unreasonable as well? I would try to honestly, CALMLY talk things over with her and tell ehr how you feel before you end the friendship

 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

I would just try to ignore the whole thing and just have her come as a guest. Like you said, she is a BFF. It may be awkward but she brought that upon herself.

Also, I do think her demands were too much. It is fine not to walk down the aisle with your spouse and $160 is not too much to pay for a dress.

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