- 2 years ago
- Wedding: July 2020 - City, State
Hi everyone! Just wanted some advice and your opinion 🙂 I apologize for the lengthy post. I have been a bridesmaid officially twice and have been asked to be again in 2 more weddings. Now I have had some negative experience and I am hesitant.
Wedding 1: We have been friends from college. I never liked her husband, he was a horrible person. Everyone told her to not marry this man but she did. I supported her. It was a huge wedding, they did it at a castle, super fairytale. But it was pricy. I was in the process of building my first home and THAT is expensive. I spent a lot on her wedding and felt the pressure to do so. Unfortunately, they ended up divorcing 5 months later =/ I am happy as it was the right thing to do but obviously upset that I spent so much money and this could have all been less drama for everyone.
Wedding 2: The perfect bride. The bridesmaid dress from wedding 1 happened to be the one she liked too so I didn’t have to buy it again! all of her events was super reasonable too. Zero complaints.
Wedding 3: My cousin – who lives in Florida but use to use to live in Toronto until 5 years ago, went to Florida for school. I currently live in Toronto. This one is complicated. She asked me to come down to Florida for 3 days for her bachelorette party. I declined as again, I was building my house and did not have the money which she knew that very well. I bought my bridesmaid dress which was $240. She was upset and disappointed that I couldn’t come. Long story short. 2 months before the wedding, they break up and cancel the whole thing! That was not a healthy relationship either and after endless amounts of advice she proceeded with the wedding. To add more drama, they secretly married a year prior to give her a green card (as she is Canadian). The whole thing was very sad, I wish I could have prevented it. I have been battling with David’s bridal to get a store credit for over a month now and they literally are ignoring my emails. They sent me two at the start to “apologize”.
Wedding 4: My bf has been asked to be a groomsman. They have been friends for many years through soccer. I met his gf now fiancé from those games. We became soccer wives as we joked. It’s a group of 4 couples that all hangout every now and then. So my bf was asked back in December and it is now April and the bride called me on Saturday that she has been contemplating back and forth since December if she should add me. Her fiancé said “If you still feel the same way by April call her”. So she did. Along with my sister, and another friend of ours from the group…The dress costs $311 and we have to order it by next week for it to come in time (my bad luck, it’s not from a David’s bridal shop so I can’t negotiate my store credit lol). It is Easter long weekend on top of my nephew’s first b-day and sister in-law’s b-day. The shop is an hour away from me and I honestly don’t think I can make it to try on the dress. I spoke with my bf and sister and were all pretty tight for cash. My sister is a vet tech and has insane hours and also doesn’t think she can make it to the store. Our house is all built now but we ran into a lot of unforeseen expenses and we are struggling hard. I feel bad but I want to decline. I have been added to two group chats and I feel obligated to. I do know what to do I feel terrible if me and my sister both drop out. Please some lovely advice would be greatly appreciated!!!