Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding – she got engaged in August and the wedding is January. I work part time in retail and I’m in college also. I am throwing a lingerie shower for her and someone else is throwing a bridal shower for her the day before my party. These showers in next weekend. Is it bad etiquette for me to not take a gift for the bridal shower? I am the only hostess for the lingerie shower, so I am footing the bill for that party (it’s small, but still costs money) and I have also bought my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, shoes, a gift for the lingerie shower and on top of that have to buy Christmas presents for family! What do you guys think? I don’t want to seem rude, but I can’t afford another nice gift and don’t want to get something lousy… <!– ********* ItemTemplate.BodyColPostBodyEnd (/1 row) ************* //–>
Post # 3
I think according to strict etiquette you are supposed to bring a gift, BUT, as a bride- I doubt I’d even notice.
Post # 4
If this girl is your friend, I’m sure she’ll understand your situation and not expect you to get two separate gifts. Also, Miss Powder Puff’s idea of a new monogrammed stocking might be nice.
Post # 5
If I were you I would do what I could afford, if you can’t afford it then I wouldn’t buy anything and the bride should understand your circumstances after throwing you a lingerie shower.But also just check to see if there were some affordable items from her registry that you could buy for her shower, but I would keep it small. But saying that you have paid for a lot of things already and I would also not dip into the funds that I’ve been saving for Christmas.
Post # 6
How about a great card. At my bridal shower I got a gift from 2 of my 4 bridesmaids. I brought gifts to give each of my bridesmaids as hostesses — it was an honor to have them in my wedding and I did not expect gifts from them (after buying bm dresses, shoes, etc…);however, I did feel it was important for ME to give THEM gifts for hosting.