(Closed) Bridesmaid Fail :/ (long)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Elizabeth_A:  Definitely don’t just ask them to have them – or have you already asked them?  I’m confused if they can’t even attend the wedding day are they really BMs?

If you ask them just to have them you’ll probably spend more time frustrated and attempting to corral them than you will enjoying your time with them.  You’ll see lots of other posts about that if you stick around!

You can definitely have no BMs and survive 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Cheer up! 🙂

Original purpose for bridesmaids:

“A custom once existed where maidens dressed similarly to the bride would accompany her as her protectors on her way to the groom’s village. This would deflect spurned suitors from kidnapping the bride or from stealing her dowry.”

Thankfully you don’t have to worry about that! ^
 
My BM’s haven’t actually done a whole lot. I actually think that NOT having BM’s would be less work/less to coordinate in my case. You can definitely not have BM’s!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Elizabeth_A:  Well when they said they would be your Bridesmaid or Best Man I would assume that that means they plan to attend your wedding and stand up with you, if they say they’re unable to do that I would ask them to relinquish that title (as stupid as those last 3 words sound) but that’s an opening for it.

IDK, Weird situation and usually I don’t suggest revoking Bridesmaid or Best Man status but it sounds like your girls don’t know what they signed up for.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My BM’s all lived around the area (except my SIL who was a pain in the butt from hundreds of miles away) and none of them helped except my Maid/Matron of Honor, who planned by bridal shower. If you expect them to stand up there with you on your big day, and you are sure they aren’t going to make it, then just don’t have any “bridesmaids” but maybe list them as honorary or something? That way, you don’t throw them out completely, but you still include them.

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