(Closed) Bridesmaid Falling out/Regret

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

She sent you a text message calling you a murderer?! Did you ask her to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man before or after that? If you asked her and THEN you got the message, I would just say ‘I understand loud and clear that you don’t respect me and I feel it best, for both of us, that you don’t participate in my wedding.’ I don’t think you need to play nice, per say, as it doesn’t sound like she has. Cut her out. You won’t regret it. But the longer you leave her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, the more stress you’ll have.

Good luck!

Post # 4
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If someone has acted horribly and you have no interest in maintaining the friendship and are totally justified in that decision, it is one of the rare exceptions where I will encourage someone to drop a bridesmaid. And this is definitely one of those times!

Post # 5
18 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

It sounds like it would be awkward for both of you if she is a bridesmaid.  I don’t think you should feel guilty about unasking her. You should not feel awkward on your wedding day! 

Post # 6
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

As an animal lover, I completely understand your situation with putting your dog to sleep. Whatever decision you made, a TRUE friend would be there to comfort and support you, regardless of their opinion. Since she did not do that, and even had to nerve to go behind your back and call you names, I would un-ask her. Don’t be rude about it, but I would just say that you feel there is a tension between the both of you that would make you uncomfortable on the wedding day. It doesn’t sound like either of you want to maintain the friendship (I don’t blame you-she sounds rude) so it shouldn’t be too hard to let her go.

Post # 7
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds like you no longer have a friendship with this person.  If you really don’t want her at your side on the wedding day, I’d just drop all communication.  If she reaches out and tries to patch things up, great.  If not, she will likely just remove herself from the wedding party.

Don’t hold the move against her if she does try to reconcile.  Bridesmaids are not required to help us with our weddings – that’s our FI’s job!

Post # 8
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard enough to watch your beloved pet suffer, and worse yet that you were judged so harshly for it. Dump the bridesmaid.

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