- 10 years ago
Hello Hive! (long post again, but bear with me and thank you for letting me vent!)
Sooo I spoke with the bride last night and she’s not budging…sigh..she’s sticking with the cream-colored shoes and clutch..That’s all fine and dandy. I told her about my other finances and she said that I should have thought about that before committing. I DID think about these kinds of things! (I just didn’t think it would be THIS expensive!)
On top of that, she had the nerve to tell ME how to save money each pay period! And that I could back out now and she could ask her sister-in-law and that she’s sure that she (SIL) could reimburse me for the dress costs. UMMM hello! Can’t really back out now..my flight plans have been made, dress is ordered-(i mean, I suppose I could but she also guilt-tripped me about how disappointed she’d be b/c she would rather have me up with her b/c we’re closer and best friends…etc….
Then she asks about the hotel. Earlier a while ago, when the engagement was just announced, she had mentioned 2 hotels that she was going to block. I don’t know if she hadn’t blocked enough rooms are what….well turns now, the rooms are almost ALL gone! I told her I didn’t reserve now b/c i was waiting for the invitation! (ok, granted, I could have reserved early) And to top it off, the one hotel that would have been convenient (the reception was going to be on the grounds right next store) is all booked! So the next hotel option was about 97% booked! (so you bet I booked it last night!)
She also kept going on and on about how i should rent a car so that it would be more convenient for me and I could go exploring…I’m not doing this…first of all, I don’t want to rent a car in a strange city and end up lost. (can you imagaine?!?) Second, I don’t need to explore. I just plan to attend the basics-the rehearsal, the rehearsal dinner, the wedding….that’s it. And thirdly, I don’t need yet another expense!
I made some decisions that I was firm on. No car renting. I’m not getting a cream-colored clutch-I don’t need one (I don’t usually use cream-colored purses, etc.) Next, supposedly there’s going to be a spa day but we’re each paying our own. I don’t need to do that either. Luckily we can do our own hair and makeup.
I know how this sounds..but it’s costing me almost 1k to just to be a bridesmaid at this wedding and that’s not including the shoes, which will be my final cost I was also just taken back by her naivety and rudeness. (if she had only read WB, she could have learn a few things and probably saved money too!)
The upside of all this is that I will get to visit my other college best friend (who’s not invited to the wedding-they don’t know each other). She’s picking me up from the airport and I will get to spend the night and probably most of next day up until the rehearsal, so I’m looking forward to that!
Sigh..Again thanks for listening!