(Closed) Bridesmaid for the first time tomorrow…advice?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MrsCarnival:  Be ready to say something…just in case.  Offer to help.  Have fun!

Post # 4
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I see you are in MN, does the bride have a personal attendent, since that seems like the norm for MN.  If she does you really don’t need to do much other than show up and smile and stand up for her. 

Post # 5
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

help where you can, and try not to ask the bride any questions!

Post # 6
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Say nice things.

Post # 9
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

A few suggestions from a multi-time Bridesmaid or Best Man. I always hate when the other BM’s do nothing or act like the day is about them.

Ask if she needs anything, don’t treat her like a baby but be the one to ask, “Need a drink? Need me to carry that for you? Need help with the door?” Anything she doesn’t have to do and may not want to ask for help with should be offered. Make yourself available.

Bring Snacks! It’s amazing how hungry people can realize they might be just before the wedding. Also anything you’d want on hand as a bride. IE. tampons, pins, spray, etc. Just because you remember doesn’t mean someone else will/did.

Tell her how amazing she looks! Glowing, beautiful, flawless! I don’t care if you hate her you should act like the very sight of her brings tears to your eyes, lol.

Obviously nothing is really expected but these are things that could make her day a little better and possibly get you back on better terms.

Post # 10
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was in this istuation last year… I am enaged to her brother but she and I are… on again off again. I smiled and tried to helpful where I was allowed. my little tip: bring something to do! there are more down times in all the wedding preperations than people think about and it helped to keep stress down to eilimante the “wait time” all I did was throw a deck of cards in my purse. simple. just remember how you woudl like her to treat you on your wedding day and then do that.

it is all about the minnesota nice lol.

Post # 12
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have been a bridesmaid over 10 times and I have learned to have the following things with you for the bride or other family members:

  • Bobby Pins, Hairspray, Shine Spray
  • Safety Pins, Extra earring backs,
  • Tape, Sissors, tweezers
  • Lotion, body spray, perfume, sunblock/bug spray if needed, deodorant
  • chapstick, lipgloss
  • candy (bride flowergirl/ring bearer down the aisle), snacks, water
  • washcloth (for when deodorant gets on the dress)
  • mouthwash, Tide pen, shout wipes
  • Advil, allergy medicine, immodium AD

Just stick all this stuff in a bag and carry it around, it truely is a life saver at weddings!  I made this little kit the first wedding I was in, have used it at every one since!  Added things to it, but it’s great to be prepared! 

Also, make sure not to smoother the bride she is getting pulled from several directions that day, just do everyone in your power to keep her calm and happy.  Hope this helps, and be sure to just have fun!


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