- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I have three bridesmaids. My sister (lives in another state), my sister in law (married to my bro/ 10 yrs older 2 kids) and my friend since we we 12, lives in another state. You would assume that my sis would be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but honestly it is a waste of time, she doesn’t take much interest, and hasnt’ asked about wedding plans— very long story, but basically it is hard for our family because she is so wrapped up in her life, she sometimes acts like she could care less about our family- I am still making her my bm however, because she is my only sister and I still do love her despite everything.
My sil is great, I have known her for over 12 years, she is so great to my brother, and like she has replaced my real sister. She is ten yrs older (not a big deal) and has two young kids, works her tail off, and has so much going on. I am just appreciative that she will be there on my big day, and she is really trying to be as involved as much as she can (not much time left after being superwoman!) So I am not expecting too much not because I don’t think she would do it, but more because I don’t want her to stress too much about one more thing on her plate.
My friend since I was 12, we haven’t seen each other in years, but we talk all the time. It just felt right to ask her to be a bm, but I knew it would be difficult for her to be involved. She has a new life out there, and it is pretty amazing that we can still be good friends after so much time, and distance.
Okay, Ill get to my point- its a little under 10 months to my wedding, and I’m not too stressed about the planning – yet. But this girl has gone above and beyond to be involved. She will send over websites with themes, dresses, EVERYTHING. She has offered to fly out here just to help plan, then more planning during xmas, then be there the week of!!! I found it unecessary for her to spend all that money (she works and has gone back to college) and time, and that I would just see her when she visits her family during xmas and then the week of. She has offered to make the cakes, pies, and talk to her friend that works at a dress shop. I can’t say how much I appreciate her enthusiasm for being a part of this wedding even after living such different lives for so long.
How do I show my appreciation for this girl- and my sil? They deserve so much, but would like to do something that shows them my appreciation for all that they are doing, and trying to do. I just haven’t been able to come up with anything!!!! Thanks!!!