(Closed) Bridesmaid from hell!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow she’s being quite inconsiderate. Can you maybe have a talk with her about how you’re feeling? It doesn’t sound to me like she wants to be a bridesmaid. 

About her brother, it floors me how people don’t give a second thought as to how much EACH GUEST costs us. 

I hope you work it out so everyone, especially yourself, is happy. My wedding is 5 weeks away, yay May brides!

Post # 5
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

it sounds like she isn’t being much of a Bridesmaid or Best Man if you ask me. Is she a close friend?

Post # 6
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7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

She has plenty of time to get the dress. She probably only needs about a week or two for alterations. So, you can calm down about that part.

Sometimes someone can’t make a shower. I wouldn’t be bothered by that.

I would, however, be annoyed about the rehearsal unless it is an honest to blog real inconvenience. 

Pas for her brother, this is complicatedyou once you invited the rest of the family, it’s understandable that he would feel singled out for exclusion, and to people who haven’t planned a wedding, it’s hard to understand why you can’t just invite one more person. Try to see it from her pspectove.  Stand your ground, but be gracious about it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Do u think money is an issue for her?Seems weird to me that she would beg to be part of the wedding then not want to participate….weird.Good luck with her, I would be annoyed too.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I understand you’re upset, but as brenda.m.fields said, she still has time to get the dress AND alterations.  And honestly – bridesmaid dresses don’t always need alterations.  I’ve gotten several bridesmaid dresses and while none of them were super flattering, I only got one altered, by my mother, who added a few stitches in the chest so I wouldn’t have out of control cleavage.

As for the rehearsal – honestly, if she knows how to walk in a straight line and smile, then it should be fine.  I’d be a tad annoyed that someone couldn’t make the rehearsal, but I’d get over it in about a second.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry. I feel there’s always 1 in every group. I got just as frustrated with 1 of my bms about 1 month out. It got to the point where my other bms were telling me that the best thing to do was to ask her to step down. It was my SIL so I told Darling Husband that he needed to have a talk with his sister and that if she wasn’t willing to be a team player (get her dress and make sure it fits! no joke, that’s all I asked of them!) then she should not be part of our wedding. She definitely backed down and got in line with the rest of the girls and wasn’t a problem after that.

I have a friend who did have to “fire” a bm 2 weeks before her wedding. It happens! You don’t need the extra stress and drama on your wedding day.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I feel for you. I’ve had issues with one of mine. I worked it out by talking to her. Maybe you can do the same?

Post # 16
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, if she doesn’t get the dress in time for the wedding, then she has removed herself.

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