- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2019
Hello everyone! Im just looking for a little bit of advice.
I only have three bridesmaids. The matron of honor is my sister and I asked my fiancé’s two sisters to be bridesmaids. I did this because, at the end of the day, I wanted the women standing with me to be involved and a part of my future marriage. It seemed like the right thing and it felt really special to have a sister squad thing going on. Also, all of these women are 30+ years old, married and full grown adults so I thought “bonus! Drama free!”.
The point of this story is that now, it feels like my fiancé’s sisters dont really care about being involved. They say the want to help out and “whatever I need” but at the end of the day they fall through or back out. I have done my best to accommodate them as well because I get that life doesnt stop because I am getting married but it’s frustrating. For example, I changed my shower date three times to accommodate their schedules then one couldn’t come because of work and then the other left early. Again, life happens. But now, they have known for a year the date of my bachelorette weekend (again,which i planned to accommodate the weekends they said worked for them) and now they want to reschedule. I dont WANT to reschedule, I have taken off work, its in a month and my schedule is such that we either do it when planned or not at all. THEY HAVE HAD A YEAR OF NOTICE! Also, I planned this whole trip out of state because it was closer to the oldest sisters new home and I didnt want to stess her with extra travel. I told them I understand if they cant come (again, life happens Im trying to be cool) but now they have the nerve to be offended about me not rescheduling…..am I being unreasonable here? Do they have to be there? Am I being too nice/too mean? Help!