(Closed) Bridesmaid Frustration!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

They might just be irresponsible, and had other things going on and completely forgot. Can they order online from DSW? Or direct from the manufacturer/another online shoe store? Even if they have to pay more… they should have bought them when you asked them to. My dresses ar efloor length so I just told them to wear black shoes that they already have, but I would expect them to get something if I asked… kind of comes with the Bridesmaid or Best Man thing, IMO. If they thought you were being unreasonable they should have said so immediately.

Post # 4
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can only speak for myself, but sometimes I have to wait a couple of paychecks because I have money tied up in going toward certain bills or other expenses, so I can’t always jump on buying something right away.  What seems like a small amount to you might be a big expense to someone else, and being a Bridesmaid or Best Man can be pretty expensive when you add it all up!  

Post # 5
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MadameTussaud:  I agree. I usually know where all my money is going before I even get my pay check. So yeah, there are some things that have to wait.

Hopefully the shoes will be restocked and they can purcahsed in time though!

Post # 6
9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@DMG:   They still have time to purchase shoes, maybe they haven’t gotten around to it yet or are saving the money.  Can you find something similar enough for them since the originals are sold out?

It couldn’t hurt to ask, maybe you should give them a call to verify they’ll have the shoes in time for the wedding. 

Post # 7
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Totally agree with you there. 


@ OP, have they responded back to you yet about waiting for the shoes to come in?

Post # 8
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t let it bug you, it’s really not that big of a deal.  Maybe they couldn’t afford the shoes right then ($50 can be a lot for people) or just haven’t had time.  If they come back in stock, then great.  But if not, if they are simple, black peep toe pumps I don’t see what’s wrong with them finding something similar that they like and are comfortable in.

Also, if you are requiring specific shoes, you should be paying for them…

Post # 9
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@RunsWithBears:  +1 

If you’re requiring specific shoes, you should pay. It’s not up to you to decide if a style is pretty when you’re spending someone else’s money. 

Post # 10
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@fishbone:  If you think that way, should she buy the bridesmaids dresses as well? It just comes with the territory of being a bridesmaid. They should have bought the shoes. 

Post # 12
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FoxyBride14:  I agree. My girls bought their shoes and their dress. What’s the difference between them buying their dress that I want them to wear and shoes? Like you said – comes with being a Bridesmaid or Best Man

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