Post # 1
I am only having two bridesmaids. They picked out their dress (same for both) and I have no preference on what jewelry or shoes they wear. Would having them pick out a fabulous pair of shoes that they would want to wear with their dresses be ok as part of their gift? They could pick different shoes, I really have no preference. Both ladies love shoes and don’t get to splurge on nice ones too often.
Post # 3
I see no problem with that at all. Some people feel that gifts can’t include things to be worn on the wedding day, but I see no problem with it and would glady welcome that as a gift.
Post # 4
What about gifting them a gift certificate or gift card for their favorite shoe store? Or maybe a Visa gift card (less restrictive) in a shoe-themed gift card holder with a fun poem or something. I think gifting them part of their wedding attire is always a great idea, but this way they wouldn’t feel like they needed to get approval for their shoes, you’d be able to budget a specific amount, etc.
I know if someone was offering to buy me something for an event, I’d be super-self-conscious about not taking advantage of them and maybe choose something more reasonable rather than getting what I really wanted. With a gift card I’d have the option of getting what I wanted and, if it’s more than the giver planned to spend, paying the difference with no guilt or weird feelings.
If that makes any sense 🙂
Post # 5
@thirdtimebride: I think that’s a fantastic idea – super considerate of your BMs, their preferences, and their budgets!
Post # 6
Sure… but it all depends on the delivery.
Post # 7
It coud be a great gift. Just make sure you get them shoes they like and will wear again.
Post # 8
Yeah I wanted to make sure they got what they wanted. A gift card to a favorite shoe store would be a good idea – that way they don’t worry about if they ask for a pair that is “too much”. I want them to get a nice pair of shoes that’ll last for a long time.
Post # 9
Just a thought, but one of my favorite bridesmaids gifts was a Coach clutch that I received. The bride picked out a clutch for each girl (we each got something different – same style, different colors/prints) that we could use the day of and after. I use that clutch ALL the time…
I thought I’d add my two cents just in case you were thinking about alternatives to shoes!
Post # 11
For people who are worried about the girls picking shoes that might be more reasonable, you could always just ask them to figure out what shoes they want but e-mail you before they buy them to check that it’s ok. Then you can buy the shoes and surprise them!