Post # 1
I need some help on this one. I’ve never been a bridesmaid before so I’m not sure how it all works!
As a bridesmaid most of us pay to host a shower, shower gifts, for expensive dresses and shoes, to get our hair done, travel expenses, bachlorette parties, bachlorette gifts… And I don’t mind doing any of that at all! It’s just I’m having a hard time affording it. I do have a job and I’ve been trying to save but it’s been hard enough finding the money for bills lately, let alone an extra $800-1000 for my friends wedding.
As their friend, I would LOVE to get my newlywed friends a great wedding gift but after all the costs, I may not be able to afford a nice one. What is expected of bridesmaids to do for their gift? What are brides expecting?
Post # 3
This is a tough one – I think every bride is bound to have different expectations. I don’t expect gifts from any of my ‘maids personally – their travel expenses will be more than enough! But I feel that way about most of my friends (I’m getting married where my parents live, friends are all over the world) too, so I may not be the best example.
Post # 4
I don’t know about other gals, but I never even thought about my peeps giving me gifts. Just being there and being willing to stand up there in front of everyone for us is more than enough for me and my Fiance. I’m more worried about getting them gifts!
Post # 5
Have you talked to the other BMs? Maybe you could all go in on one really great gift so you don’t break your budget and you still feel like you were able to get something nice? That being said, I generally don’t feel that the BMs need to bring a wedding gift other than thier support throughout and physical presence.
Post # 6
I certainly don’t expect my bridesmaids to give us a gift on top of everything else they’ve done. But on the other hand, when I’m a bridesmaid, I always give a gift. Not a large gift, but something small and meaningful.
Post # 7
I usually try to go with something more meaningful than expensive for a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift.
Post # 8
Okay, I’ll be honest here. I do not expect a gift from BMs. They do enough, and really, they’re with me because I love them, not because of what they can give me.
However, if I didn’t at least get a card from them, I might have my feelings hurt. Not enough to cause a big fuss or anything, not even enough to mention it, but enough to notice.