(Closed) Bridesmaid gift-giving etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What’s acceptable is what you can afford.  There isn’t an average amount.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I personally never expect a gift from wedding party participants, so no gift from you would be fine by me as a bride. Over the years I have given what I felt comfortable with and could afford, regardless of being in the wedding or not. Sometimes more, sometimes less. My standard wedding gift is $100 for me and my Fiance as regular guests. I don’t know what the norm is, but that’s what I have been comfortable spending in recent years. As for wedding showers, I tend to avoid them like the plague… so I don’t know what I would spend if I was forced to atend one…. The only things I dislike more than bridal showers are childrens parties and… omg shoot me… baby showers. That’s a post for another day

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JiminyCricket:  I second this! You’re exactly right 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You are going above and beyond in spending as it is. A card for the shower and maybe a small token gift if you feel like it. Same for the wedding. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A lovely card with your best wishes. I wouldn’t be going to Vegas much less buying her a gift.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

You’re already buying your own dress and accessories, plus paying for your own hair and makeup? And the trip to Vegas. Don’t feel pressured, bee. You’ve spent enough already. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

wow… over here brides pay for the wedding party not the other way around because if you asked them to be bridesmaid their horoned guests (and doing a job ) and it shouldn’t cost them and tbh that is a shocking amount to be spending already (I know I couldnt spend that – I would love to go to vegas but im not rich)

I would get nothing more than a cheap token gift, maybe something that reflects their likes or personality to show you really know them but certainly nothing expensive after spending that much already

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

This is just MY opinion:

If you were in my wedding and you were paying the expenses listed above I wouldn’t expect a gift. 

That said, some might. I think $50 would be adequate.  Maybe go in with another bridesmaid to get a bigger gift if you feel led to do so. But really I think asking bridesmaids to pay for everything themselves and a destination bachelorette on top of that…

Wow. I wouldn’t expect it. But that’s me. 

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