Post # 1
I’m a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding and I’m wondering what’s an acceptable amount to spend on bridal shower and wedding gifts?
I don’t have much money and we’re going to Vegas for the bachelorette – bride wants to pay her own flight and we’ll pick up dinners, drinks etc. The trip will probably cost close to $1000/person since we’re going for 4 days and flighst are pricey from Toronto. We’re paying for our dresses ($200), shoes (uncertain $) and hair and makeup ($100). What’s an acceptable price range for bridal shower and wedding gifts?
Post # 2
What’s acceptable is what you can afford. There isn’t an average amount.
Post # 3
I personally never expect a gift from wedding party participants, so no gift from you would be fine by me as a bride. Over the years I have given what I felt comfortable with and could afford, regardless of being in the wedding or not. Sometimes more, sometimes less. My standard wedding gift is $100 for me and my Fiance as regular guests. I don’t know what the norm is, but that’s what I have been comfortable spending in recent years. As for wedding showers, I tend to avoid them like the plague… so I don’t know what I would spend if I was forced to atend one…. The only things I dislike more than bridal showers are childrens parties and… omg shoot me… baby showers. That’s a post for another day
I second this! You’re exactly right 🙂
Post # 4
You are going above and beyond in spending as it is. A card for the shower and maybe a small token gift if you feel like it. Same for the wedding.
Post # 5
A lovely card with your best wishes. I wouldn’t be going to Vegas much less buying her a gift.
Post # 6
You’re already buying your own dress and accessories, plus paying for your own hair and makeup? And the trip to Vegas. Don’t feel pressured, bee. You’ve spent enough already.
Post # 7
wow… over here brides pay for the wedding party not the other way around because if you asked them to be bridesmaid their horoned guests (and doing a job ) and it shouldn’t cost them and tbh that is a shocking amount to be spending already (I know I couldnt spend that – I would love to go to vegas but im not rich)
I would get nothing more than a cheap token gift, maybe something that reflects their likes or personality to show you really know them but certainly nothing expensive after spending that much already
Post # 8
This is just MY opinion:
If you were in my wedding and you were paying the expenses listed above I wouldn’t expect a gift.
That said, some might. I think $50 would be adequate. Maybe go in with another bridesmaid to get a bigger gift if you feel led to do so. But really I think asking bridesmaids to pay for everything themselves and a destination bachelorette on top of that…
Wow. I wouldn’t expect it. But that’s me.