Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
I have an idea, and I need some fine-tuning. Tell me if I’m crazy.
I know who I want my two bridesmaids to be, a year and a half out. I haven’t “asked” them yet, as I know things can change, but for now, they are who I’ve got my mind made up on.
I was thinking to have their gift be Pandora bracelets (not the chain ones, new fashionable bangles with CZ), with one charm for each “wedding event”. Example, I would give them the bracelet and one charm that says “bridesmaid” when I “ask” them if they would like to participate. (Obviously returnable if they say no, so the cost expenditure is a non-issue). Then, if/when we go to bridal outings (dress shopping, bach, rehearsal dinner, and wedding day), they would get a new charm for each event.
They each wear bracelets often (Alex & Ani too, so I know they like bangles), and one of the two has been a bridesmaid at least 4 times, so I don’t want to get just another necklace that’ll sit in a drawer. I figure, if I get the charm bracelet, they would have each charm to remember the fun times we had, and they can choose to wear it or just have the keepsake.
Am I insane? Is this a bad idea somehow that I’m not seeing? TIA!
Post # 2
I think that sounds cute – but I would get more neutral charms that look good, rather than ones that specifically say wedding stuff on them. If you wanted more themed charms, you could do ones with your relationship to them ie. Best friend or sister.
Post # 3
Full disclosure: I’m more practical than sentimental. The bracelet sounds ok but I would not value all those charms. One, maybe. Five charms to commemorate someone else’s wedding? No thank you. That seems like overkill and like making the gift about you rather than about them.
Post # 4
Seems like some of these charms would be appropriate for the bride. Otherwise they are clunky remainders of being someone’s bridesmaid.
You can personalize them, so why not a bridesmaid charm, a charm from an activity you did with each of them (…were you on a sports team or in a art club with either of them?) and then a third charm with their zodiac or birthstone or favorite flower.
Post # 5
It’s nice you are thinking about them but I agree with the other poster that it seems overkill. I don’t think I would wear or want a charm to celebrate someone’s rehearsal dinner or wedding dress shopping. If you wanted to get these charms for yourself it would make more sense, but it just seems like a lot.
It also seems a bit odd to give a gift based on how much time they can dedicate to your wedding, if one girl only goes wedding dress shopping 2 out of the three times does the other girl get the charm but she doesn’t?
Post # 6
I’m not a big fan of this – it kind of makes it seem like you expect every pre-wedding event in YOUR wedding year to be like a commemorative event in your BMs life, which it usually isn’t. Like I woudln’t be impressed getting a charm for a dress fitting, a rehearsal dinner, etc. I don’t hate the idea of the pandora bracelet but what about 1 charm for your wedding and then 1 charm for them? And I say this having gotten basically a robe and a tote for every wedding I’ve been in, but I don’t love the implication of “this is all commemorative of MY wedding” theme.
For my bridesmaid boxes I did a facemask, a nail polish, and a bath bomb, just a little like “pamper yourself” box. I’d start with the smaller gift for the “ask” (even if it’s returnable could you imagine that awkwardness?) and then the bigger gift for the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift. There doesn’t need to be a gift for every event.
Post # 7
Not a fan of this at all. I agree with the others that is overkill to get a charm for each event. This isn’t about your friendship with them, this is about wht they are doing for your wedding.
I think it would be cute to get a bracelet and give them a charm for friendship, but anything else is just too much.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal
It kind of gives me this vibe
Post # 9
I preface this by saying I hate bracelets and think charm bracelets are especially ugly and I can only think of two people I know who actually wear bracelets – but if you say they are really into them I’ll believe you and not try to talk you out of the idea as a whole. However…
I feel like the plan to get a charm for each wedding event is more a gift about you than about them. They are a bridesmaid for one day of their life…all the rest of the days they are just them/your friend. While I’m sure they will be excited to be your bridesmaids…YOUR wedding is just not going to be that big of a deal to them. It is much more important to you than them. If you were to get them these bracelets, I would individualize them. They are more than your wedding. They are more than your bridesmaids. You can include a bridesmaid charm, but all the other charms should be reflective of them as individuals and your friendship. So if you and one friend bonded over books, then maybe a charm related to that – and if you and the other friend bonded while in marching band together then maybe something related to that, and so on.
Post # 10
I think it depends on your bridesmaids and what you think they would like, but I agree with some of the other posters sentiments.
Unfortunately I don’t take charm bracelets very seriously and would probably never wear one, so I’d just make sure that it’s something they would be open to. SNL did a funny skit about it recently:
Post # 11
The bracelet idea is nice, but maybe something without cz. I wouldnt wear cz. And then one charm that says what the person means to you. A bunch of charms commemorating your wedding isn’t the way to go.
Post # 12
Blunt truth: I absolutely HATE this idea. I would not want nor would I wear a charm bracelet that commentates elses’ wedding events even if you were my BFF. A charm to celebrate going dress shopping with you? Yuck, just yuck.
If your girls love charm bracelets, then I would start (or add on) to one with a few charms about your friendship. Like a megaphone if you met on the high school cheer squad or a palm tree if your favorite memory is a beach trip you took together. Then add ONE charm for your wedding/ her being a bridesmaid. More than one charm dedicated to your wedding is overkill at best, self-absorbed at worst.
Post # 13
Please do not do this. You are implying that you value what your friends might do for you leading up to the wedding rather than honoring the friendship itself. It suggests that these events are obligatory when they are almost all optional and voluntary. I’m sorry, but whether you like charm bracelets or hate them, this is inappropriate.
Post # 14
I totally thought if that skit when I read this!!! So funny. lynnnie :
Post # 15
Have your bridesmaids recently ran a marathon, summited a mountain, graduated, crushed a karaoke competition, bought a house, got a new dog, changed their oil for the first time without help….
You can find charms to honor the accomplishments that make them awesome people! What makes them tick? What are they proud of?