Post # 1
Okay, bees, quick poll for you…
Would you rather, as a bridesmaid, pay for everything yourself and receive a nice gift from the bride OR not have to pay for anything, and just receive something small w/ a thank you?
If it helps decide, here’s my full situation: My wedding is really low budget, so I truly can’t afford to do both. My bridesmaids (there are 4) are all still in school, so I’m doing everything I can to make sure that my wedding doesn’t put them in a tough spot financially…which includes letting them know that I don’t expect them to throw showers/bachelorette party and that they don’t need to feel obligated to buy a gift on the wedding day. They will be buying their own dresses, but I have given them control over what they choose, so it looks like they’ll be ordering something off the interenet for around $50.
Up until this weekend, I honestly was planning to do my own hair and makeup, but I did engagement pics this weekend and have since completely changed my mind. (I don’t normally wear makeup, so I practiced doing makeup and really had no idea what I was doing. To make it worse, the makeup I bought made me break out the day before pics. I ended up calling Sephora and they were able to fit me in adn do my makeup the day of pictures and it was amazing! . I never would have been able to do what they did and I literally cried when I saw my e-pic previews because I actually looked really good.) So, I’ve decided to ditch the DIY hair/makeup idea (and break my budget) in order to hire a pro.
In researching hair/makeup artists salons in my area, it looks like the cost to pay to have a pro do the hair/makeup for my bridesmaids would be about what I was planning to spend on their gifts anyways, so I was wondering if maybe this would actually be better? If I do go with a gift, I’ll let them choose whether to pay to have it done or to do it themselves (so either way, I won’t be forcing them to spend money).
So, my question really is, what would you prefer? Having your hair & makeup done for free or receiving a gift?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
If I were your bridesmaid, I prefer hair/makeup. 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
amanda.417: I’d prefer a gift and not be obligated to pay for my hair/makeup. If you absolutely must have your maids done professionally and can’t afford both, make that the gift and that’s fine. It’s just not what I would prefer.
Sorry!! Misread. DIY hair makeup is an option 🙂
Post # 4
I’d do the hair and make up.
Post # 5
I would prefer a gift because I can do my own hair and makeup but seeing some gifts that people get their bridesmaids my vote goes for the hair/makeup.
Post # 6
I voted for you paying for their Hair and Makeup for sure.
It’s really nice for them to not have to worry about it and the gift is usually pretty trivial anyway- maybe just a nice, personalized thank you note to each of them about how happy you are that they’re standing up with you, or maybe a framed picture of the two of you.
It’s the thought that counts more than a monogrammed trinket.
Post # 7
I’d probably prefer hair and make-up (plus a nice thank you note of course). But if I were you, I’d give your BMs the option. The girl with a massive amount of hair might appreciate you covering the cost of getting it done, but the girl with short hair (or is super awesome at doing it herself) might prefer a physical gift.
Post # 8
amanda.417: Can you have your makeup/hair done professionally but let them DIY theirs? Or make it optional for them to get theirs professionally done?
I’d rather have a small gift or not gift than pay for hair and makeup, but I still don’t really see the hair/makeup as a gift :-/
But I commend you for trying to be aware of your girls’ budgets!
Post # 9
I gave my girls the option – They all decided to do their own makeup, but all wanted their hair done professionally so I paid for that, plus got them a small gift (necklaces and a nice scarf that I thought would suit them each individually.)
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I paid a deposit for all of my bridesmaids to have hair and makeup done the day of the wedding. They would have been responsible for paying the left over amount ($45). I had 8 bridesmaids, only 3 of them used the makeup and hair provided to them. And then I still turned around and bought them gifts.
I say this beacuse I think you should ask them what they’d prefer. I was fairly upset at the time that they didn’t take the hair and makeup I provided. But I realize now that while I love having my hair and makeup done, everyone doesn’t feel the same.
Ask them before you make any choices for them.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
amanda.417: I will probably be paying for hair/makeup and getting them small gifts- most likely an under $25 neckalce or earrings off etsy to wear with their bridesmaid dresses.
I know when I was a bridemaid previously the bride bought me some really nice costume jewelry, but honestly since it matched her colors I’ve never worn it again. Another bride who paid for hair and makeup instead basically “gifted” me with some really great photos of myself I would not have otherwise!
Post # 12
I’d prefer hair and make-up… I’ve been there to pay for it and it can get quite expensive!
Post # 13
Hair and makeup isn’t a gift. It’s your wedding, so if you require it, then it’s your expense. I’d plan a proper gift for each lady and then let them have the option of DIY hair and makeup OR pay their own share of the professional. That still leaves a bad taste in my mouth because they are making them pay out of pocket for something that is really for your benefit, but at least you are giving them a choice in how they want to spend their money.
Post # 14
I am paying for my bridesmaids hair & makeup, along with Future Mother-In-Law [my mom didn’t want to have hers done..] My bridesmaids have had no real expense besides wedding gift and alterations [which were around $30 for alterations]. I paid for all dresses, jewelry, shoes, ect.
I still got each a gift bag full of little goodies and a $25 gift card to places they love, as well as a thank you card.
Post # 15
amanda.417: can you ask your girls? And how do you want them to wear their hair/makeup? I think everyone will appreciate the thought, but some may want to opt out (I can do my makeup much better than many professionals have done it and I normally end up in a battle over my hair. It doesn’t behave in the way people expect it will and stylists get annoyed when I give them advice on how to deal with it). I would honestly prefer to skip the gift and be able to do my own makeup (and hair if needed). You’d prefer the photos and saving money.