Post # 1
I know a lot of people buy jewelry for their bridesmaids to wear on their wedding day as their gift. I don’t want to do this. I want them to use their jewelry to show their personality (they have the same dresses and the same colored shoes). I’m trying to figure out how to tell them to accessorize their dresses on their own. I feel like it would come off as snotty “don’t expect jewelry from me for your gift” and my future in laws tend to be kind of sensitive. I know FI’s sister will have a blast accessorizing on her own, she’s a little fashionista (ok 18 isn’t little) and her style is much more daring than mine. So how do I bring this up?
Post # 3
I forgot to mention I’ll be getting them gifts that reflect their personalities rather than getting them all the same thing.
Post # 4
You can just tell them that you’re not requiring any certain jewelry and they can feel free to accessorize however they want. And tell them what you said…you want them to be able to show off their personality!
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s snotty at all. I think they’ll appreciate being able to wear something they like. My cousin got us all Swarovski jewelry as a gift to wear in her wedding, and I haven’t worn it since. Just not my taste, that’s all. Get them something else that they’ll WANT to use again. I think you’re making a great decision, and they’ll love you even more for it! Jewelry as a bridesmaid gift is way overdone, anyway.
Post # 6
Thanks for the support bees! It’s been bothering me but hopefully it’ll work out.
Post # 7
I think you said it really well in your original post :). Tell them you want their personality to be reflected in their jewelry, so they can feel free to choose their own. That’s not offensive in the least!