Post # 1
I am having a hard time choosing a bridesmaid gift. I definitely do not want to choose something cheesy that they would never use or like. The girls dresses are long, strapless and black. I was looking at pearl jewelry for them. String pearl necklaces are super expensive and with 6 girls, it adds up. I was looking to get pearl stud earrings. Do you think that is enough? Or should I look into the Etsy designs of necklaces that have a pearl pendant too?
I already ordered their bridesmaid shirts, hangers, and adding little things to the list. Please Help! I am so indecisive!
Post # 3
@vhmarie89: Remember that anything that you get them for your wedding, isn’t really a gift for them.
Gifts should be individual, and are something that your BMs would want independent of your wedding.
Post # 4
That’s an opinion…but you’re entitled to it!
OP I think giving the ladies pearl earrings would be lovely. One thing to consider is whether all your ladies have pierced ears, if any have stretched lobes, or if any have metal allergies.
Post # 5
I think jewelry is always a nice touch in can be used again.
Post # 7
A thank you gift is just that – a gift with the person’s tastes and likes in mind to thank them for being in your wedding. It should never be something used for the wedding or associated to the wedding. Doesn’t take a lot of common sense to figure out that wedding props (like jewelry for the wedding) fit the vision and taste of the bride and are not given with the tastes of each Bridesmaid or Best Man in mind.
Why do we give matching gifts to the bridal party? Because the wedding industry sells it and they market it and convince you to do it. At what other time in life do you buy all of your friends matching gifts?
At Christmas time, do you buy your 5 best girlfriends matching gifts or do you buy for each one individually according to her interests, likes, and tastes? Do you go out just after New Years and buy 5 matching birthday gifts for these girls or do you buy for each gilrl according to her interests, likes, and tastes?
There is no reason to buy matching gifts. It is a bridal industry gimmick that has worked for a very long time. Buy individually for each girl – now THAT is thoughtful!!
Post # 8
I still wear most of the jewelry I was given as a Bridal Party member.
Post # 9
That still doesn’t make it a “gift”, it was a prop for the wedding.
Post # 10
That is good luck. But doesn’t make it any more individual, or thoughtful.
Every time I see a post asking what to get their BM’s the answer should always be the same “What do your bridesmaids like?”
Post # 11
I never said that was the only thing I was going to get them. I already have a whole bag with their initials full of things that they like that has nothing to do with the wedding. It was just something for that day of gift so they did not have to go out and buy anything for “my” wedding. I don’t think that is selfish AT ALL . Some of you are so rude when answering questions. Do we not know how to be nice anymore?
Post # 13
In my “opinion,” anything that you get for them is a gift. I also think that jewelry is a fantastic gift, since almost any piece of jewelry can be worn multiple times and in multiple ways (even if it does match the wedding). And pearls are incredibly classic and almmost certain to be used over and over. I also think that it is perfectly fine to give each of your BMs the same gift. I don’t know about you, but planning a wedding has been pretty stressful for me at times (not to mention all that life in general brings), and there are lots and lots of details. I am not willing to let myself get stressed out by every single one of them. I know that my BMs will be grateful for whatever I choose to represent my gratitude for their help, support, firendship, etc. Pay no mind to the haters, lady.
I, too, have six bridesmaids, and I know that it definitely adds up quickly. So far, I have gotten each of them jewelry (yes, it is to wear for the wedding), a clutch purse and a monogrammed hanky. I’m trying to think of something else in there to add — maybe a trip to the nail salon for mani/pedis.