Post # 1
so typically for asian traditions, the groom has to give the bridesmaids cash in the mornings, typically ranging from $100-$250 each. Can be quite costly and can easily add up to a grand if you have more than a couple bridesmaids (i have 5 and my fiance and i have discussed at least 200 each). At the end of the day, this comes out of our total wedding budget anyways.
for asian brides who participate in these traditions – do you still get your bridesmaids another gift? i’m guessing the cash would be completely separate from the gift. I mean, technically, it is something separate, but at the end of the day, it comes from the same pot (our total budget). will it impact how much you are spending on the bridesmaid gifts also?
thoughts from others who have never done this tradition are welcomed also..
Post # 2
I don’t remember this tradition, but maybe I’m remembering it wrong. For my SIL’s wedding, when the groom had to come pick up the bride, he had to make offers via red envelopes to the bridesmaids to let him through to the bride… But I’m pretty sure the cash went to the bride or her family. Anyway, if you want to get them a gift still, you can get them something small like a bracelet or necklace they can all wear on the wedding day. My SIL did this and each gift was maybe $20-30 each at most?
Post # 3
you are right – i had missed that part. there are a serious of challenges in the morning and then the cash goes to the bridesmaids. and thanks for the advice – i could at the very least opt for something a bit smaller 🙂 i have some non-asian bridesmaids, and the concern is just that i don’t want them to feel as though i had skimped out on their gift , but if they receive the red pockets later on, they might understand
Post # 4
Are these Chinese tradtions? ‘Asian’ covers so many countries , Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam , Thailand etc . And I think in the UK people call Indian and Pakistani people Asians now ?
Post # 5
Will this be a Chinese tradition called “Jip San Leong”/gate crashing?
I don’t know where you’re based but I’m based in Asia. The brides do give a little gift to the bridesmaids/ji muis as a thank you and some didn’t too. It really depends on you, really.
I had brides give Chanel lipsticks, bracelets, necklaces and also money excluding the red packets that the grooms give.
If you do wanna opt for a gift, you don’t have to spend much since $200 is a lot and it should more than cover the games and their dresses expense (if any)
Post # 6
Depends where you are located? In Hong Kong, the average is about USD$70 per bridesmaid (that’s how much i got as a Bridesmaid or Best Man as well). I think gifts aren’t really necessary but you can get them something small. i’m planning to get a shawl for each of them. or you can just do a bracelet or ring from etsy.
I did get them bridesmaid proposals though which was $150 worth (but uncommon in Asia). We also got them their dress and many people hear get them make up as well. since mine is semi-destination, we’re also covering their 2 nights stay and transportation ferry ticket.