Post # 1
For the day of, I’m wanting to do personalized hangers as well as simple robes in my wedding colour for my bridesmaids (would love to have these things in my photos), but I would still like to give them something else that isn’t wedding specific…like a necklace or a bracelet or something. I guess I’m wondering if the hangers and the robes count as gifts? I’m also considering paying for them all to have their nails done the day before. Should I factor the costs of those in when considering how much to spend on their gifts or are those just seperate costs because they’re things I want as part of the day?
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Post # 2
The hangers and robes can count as gifts for sure! I got mine a bracelet with their initials, a personalized wine glass, and flip flops for the reception! I think I spent about $40-$50 per person. It all depends on your budget. I am also not paying for their hair and make-up but they are all crashing at my place the week before the wedding so they don’t have to pay for hotel rooms.
Post # 3
They do count as gifts, but I would also get them something that isn’t “for the wedding”. I am giving my girls robes, flip flops, and hangers for the morning of, as well as earrings that I would like them to wear to the wedding. Because all of those are for the wedding, I am also giving them bracelets that they will not wear to the wedding. I am paying for everyones hair and makeup as well. I think it all really counts towards showing your girls how appreciative you are that they are a part of your special day 🙂
Post # 4
I got my girls robes but I didn’t really include it as part of their gifts because it was more for my pictures. I definitely wouldn’t consider a hanger a gift. I spent about $150-200 total on each girl. You spend what you can afford.
Post # 5
If they are props for your pictures, I do not consider them gifts. There is no rule re how much to spend. That is a personal decision that depends on your financial situation.
Post # 6
I would love to have my nails done and a hand written thank you! I do think that robes and hangers are more of a selfish gift (because they are for pictures) but I dont ever expect anything from the bride anyway so I would be just as happy to receive that and a thank you note. I think it is a nice touch to personally pick something out for your bridesmaids if your budget allows.
side note: keep in mind for your bridesmaids that have been in other weddings, robes start to collect so they might not be as appreciated if they already have like three other robes from other weddings lol.
Post # 7
If it’s for the wedding then they’re not gifts. No offense, but I wouldn’t wear the robe. I have 3 robes hanging in my closet that say ‘bridesmaid’ I never wore them and I feel bad just giving them away. Get them something personal. My Maid/Matron of Honor loves Lush so I’ll be putting a basket of products together for her. One of my BM’S is a stylist so I’ll be putting a basket of tools I know she uses (such as a new pair of sheers, curling iron, flat iron, etc.) for her. Things that are actually thought out and appreciated. That’s a gift.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The robes, hangers, nail appointments, etc. are all props for your wedding. I would not consider them gifts. Spend what you can afford for their actual gifts. It doesn’t have to be something elaborate. A heartfelt note and something unique to each girl’s style/life is a great gift.
Post # 9
I offered my bridesmaids make up and hair service as completely optional (not mandatory) and said I would pay for make up if they wanted it (the more expensive choice at $85 per gal). I know it’s for the wedding, but I LOVE getting my make up done and being pampered so I would jump at the opportunity and they did too. I am also going to buy them a small, non-wedding-like clutch that they can use again. It won’t be colour specific. If I can swing it I plan on going to the Michael Kors outlet and getting them an MK wristlet as I know they’ll all be happy with that. They are about $60 each.
Post # 10
Thanks for the tips everyone!
Just as a side note, I’m the first of my friends to get married so I’m not worried about them already having 3 robes that already say “bridesmaid” on them haha. Plus I was going to monogram them maybe!
Post # 11
I think anything they get to take home wedding related or not is considered a gift, robes, jewlrey, hair, makeup yes it’s for your wedding but they are all things for them as well and the gits are for being there for you and attending the wedding so if they are wedding related why not.
Post # 12
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
I’m in the camp that things like robes and hangers ARE gifts, not just “props”. But I think throwing in something a little more personalized like a piece of jewelry that’s specific to their taste would also be a nice option. I think it’s really weird that a lot of bees say that all a bridesmaid has to do is literally just stand there in a specific dress on your wedding, yet the bride is expected to shower them with hundred dollars worth of gifts.
For my girls the only thing I’ve actually bought so far are make-up bags, all differentl designed and suited to each girl. I’m also considering getting them tote bags, necklaces and perhaps personalized glass water bottles. I might also throw in a small, cute Disney pin. Altogether I’m hoping to spend more than $80 per girl.
Post # 13
I asked my bridesmaids how they felt about robes (I found really cute, non-monogrammed ones on Pretty Plum Sugar). I also let them pick their own patterns — since they were all super pumped, I think they count as gifts. BUT something with your initials monogrammed on it would definitely feel less like a gift.
If you’re looking for something small, how about a box of godiva chocolates? It’s what I’m using as my add-on! And it’s definitely not just a prop for the wedding 🙂
Post # 14
I paid for the dress, hair, and makeup and got gift certificates for a 1 hour massage in each of their hometowns. The consider the massage the gift. Everything else is for my benefit and paying is the least that I could do.
Post # 15
There is no set dollar amount on what you should spend, IMO. I consider paying for hair/makeup/nails, etc. a gift, but a small token in addition personalized to each bridesmaid is always nice. Doesn’t have to be extravagant. A handwritten note thanking them is a nice gesture, too.