(Closed) Bridesmaid gifts…how much to spend and what counts as a gift?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The hangers and robes can count as gifts for sure! I got mine a bracelet with their initials, a personalized wine glass, and flip flops for the reception! I think I spent about $40-$50 per person. It all depends on your budget. I am also not paying for their hair and make-up but they are all crashing at my place the week before the wedding so they don’t have to pay for hotel rooms.

Post # 3
32 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015

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ashtonia:  They do count as gifts, but I would also get them something that isn’t “for the wedding”. I am giving my girls robes, flip flops, and hangers for the morning of, as well as earrings that I would like them to wear to the wedding. Because all of those are for the wedding, I am also giving them bracelets that they will not wear to the wedding. I am paying for everyones hair and makeup as well. I think it all really counts towards showing your girls how appreciative you are that they are a part of your special day 🙂

Post # 4
8684 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got my girls robes but I didn’t really include it as part of their gifts because it was more for my pictures. I definitely wouldn’t consider a hanger a gift. I spent about $150-200 total on each girl. You spend what you can afford. 

Post # 5
47389 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they are props for your pictures, I do not consider them gifts. There is no rule re how much to spend. That is a personal decision that depends on your financial situation.

Post # 6
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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ashtonia:  I would love to have my nails done and a hand written thank you! I do think that robes and hangers are more of a selfish gift (because they are for pictures) but I dont ever expect anything from the bride anyway so I would be just as happy to receive that and a thank you note. I think it is a nice touch to personally pick something out for your bridesmaids if your budget allows. 

side note: keep in mind for your bridesmaids that have been in other weddings, robes start to collect so they might not be as appreciated if they already have like three other robes from other weddings lol.

Post # 7
413 posts
Helper bee

If it’s for the wedding then they’re not gifts. No offense, but I wouldn’t wear the robe. I have 3 robes hanging in my closet that say ‘bridesmaid’ I never wore them and I feel bad just giving them away. Get them something personal. My Maid/Matron of Honor loves Lush so I’ll be putting a basket of products together for her. One of my BM’S is a stylist so I’ll be putting a basket of tools I know she uses (such as a new pair of sheers, curling iron, flat iron, etc.) for her. Things that are actually thought out and appreciated. That’s a gift.  

Post # 8
7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

The robes, hangers, nail appointments, etc. are all props for your wedding. I would not consider them gifts. Spend what you can afford for their actual gifts. It doesn’t have to be something elaborate. A heartfelt note and something unique to each girl’s style/life is a great gift.

Post # 9
301 posts
Helper bee

I offered my bridesmaids make up and hair service as completely optional (not mandatory) and said I would pay for make up if they wanted it (the more expensive choice at $85 per gal). I know it’s for the wedding, but I LOVE getting my make up done and being pampered so I would jump at the opportunity and they did too. I am also going to buy them a small, non-wedding-like clutch that they can use again. It won’t be colour specific. If I can swing it I plan on going to the Michael Kors outlet and getting them an MK wristlet as I know they’ll all be happy with that. They are about $60 each. 

Post # 11
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Demetries

I think anything they get to take home wedding related or not is considered a gift, robes, jewlrey, hair, makeup yes it’s for your wedding but they are all things for them as well and the gits are for being there for you and attending the wedding so if they are wedding related why not.  

Post # 12
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I’m in the camp that things like robes and hangers ARE gifts, not just “props”. But I think throwing in something a little more personalized like a piece of jewelry that’s specific to their taste would also be a nice option. I think it’s really weird that a lot of bees say that all a bridesmaid has to do is literally just stand there in a specific dress on your wedding, yet the bride is expected to shower them with hundred dollars worth of gifts.

For my girls the only thing I’ve actually bought so far are make-up bags, all differentl designed and suited to each girl. I’m also considering getting them tote bags, necklaces and perhaps personalized glass water bottles. I might also throw in a small, cute Disney pin. Altogether I’m hoping to spend more than $80 per girl.

Post # 13
758 posts
Busy bee

I asked my bridesmaids how they felt about robes (I found really cute, non-monogrammed ones on Pretty Plum Sugar). I also let them pick their own patterns — since they were all super pumped, I think they count as gifts. BUT something with your initials monogrammed on it would definitely feel less like a gift.

If you’re looking for something small, how about a box of godiva chocolates? It’s what I’m using as my add-on! And it’s definitely not just a prop for the wedding 🙂

Post # 14
717 posts
Busy bee

I paid for the dress, hair, and makeup and got gift certificates for a 1 hour massage in each of their hometowns.  The consider the massage the gift.  Everything else is for my benefit and paying is the least that I could do.

Post # 15
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

There is no set dollar amount on what you should spend, IMO. I consider paying for hair/makeup/nails, etc. a gift, but a small token in addition personalized to each bridesmaid is always nice. Doesn’t have to be extravagant. A handwritten note thanking them is a nice gesture, too.

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