(Closed) Bridesmaid gifts…how much to spend and what counts as a gift?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Honey bee

Personally I don’t think things like robes, hangers and bridesmaids jewelry count as gifts (and this is coming from someone who bought their bridesmaids two out of three things on that list :P). If you’re buying it, even in part, for a cute photo, I don’t think it’s truly a gift. I got my girls robes and bracelets, and I’ll also be getting them a clutch purse, each to her own taste, not to be used in the wedding.

I’m also buying their dresses and paying for their hair and our hotel room/B&B rental the night before, but I don’t consider those to be a “bridesmaid gift” either…

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I spent just over $120 on each bridesmaid and I got them a monogrammed L.L. Bean Tote bag and filled them with a hanger with their name on it (no “bridesmaid” or wedding date on them), a bottle of wine, nail polish, perfume, and their favourite candy. 🙂 Considering paying for their hair too as I only have 2 bridesmaids.   

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Demetries

personally I think people brag too much on wedding bee. 🙂

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t count anything that’s for your wedding to be a gift. The hangers and robes sound like they’re for pictures (and they sound cute!) Like you suggested, I would get them their own gifts on top of that. I just shopped for my girls like it was their birthday. They all got something I really thought they’d want and love. 

I spent about $30-50 on each of them. It seems like this is less than a lot of brides but they had minimal costs for being in the wedding. They wore dresses they already had and did their own make-up; I paid for their hotels and hair. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am paying for all my girls’ hair and makeup, as well as robes and necklaces for each of them.  Also made them each a wire hanger with their names…. not hard to make yourself at all!!

Post # 21
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Blushing bee

I paid for everything that was specifically for the wedding (dresses, hair and makeup, nails for anyone who wants them, and accommodations). We’re having a destination wedding and I wanted to keep my bridesmaids’ costs as low as possible, but I would’ve paid for their dresses and hair and makeup even if they didn’t have to travel.

I thought about buying some cute props — I actually love the hangers and robes — but I figured it would be better to put that money towards actual gifts. I got individual presents from one of our favourite stores and I’m taking them to the spa the day after the wedding (we all love getting pampered and I knew they’d appreciate it). I’m spending about $150/head for the gifts + spa day.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would think that the hangar and robe is a portion of the gift. 

The nails is also a portion. It is lovely and something for ‘them’ even if the purpose of it is the wedding. 

With gifts I don’t know that you ‘have’ to have a monetary value, but i’d think around 100-150 is fair. 

I plan on doing the robes, but I don’t think i’m going to monograph the ‘bridesmaids’ on the back. I think that kills any future use of it. Especially since I’m going to get silk and it could be nice to wear afterwards. I’ll likely just do their initials. Its not like they’re going to be mistaken for anyone else on the morning of. lol. 

In theory the personalized gift is really nice. But then again, it takes a lot of thought and effort. There is the potential for ‘hurt’ feelings if one is more spot on. I dunno = perhaps i’m over thinking this. 

I’m sure you are well on your way to having happy girls by your side. 

I have 9 so no matter what I do it will cost a tonne. But I signed up for that with 9 attendants. 🙂 

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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ashtonia:  I say they do count as gifts. I got my girls and myself matching bracelets. Anything you buy for them to have for the wedding that they get to keep and use that day I would say counts as a gift.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Agree that if it’s for the wedding (especially a prop) then buy all you want, but know your friends might not ever touch them again. honestly it was sweaty where we got ready anyways so a robe would have been a waste. Please don’t buy anything with your wedding date or “bridesmaid” on them.

 

I got my girls an Alex & Ani (all 3 were into it) and I got cute coach clutches for $40 on black friday at the outlet (that matched their style, not the dresses!). But what I got the most raves about from them was a collage picture frame where I put pictures of us throughout our friendships and little pictures of things that illustrated inside jokes and such. 

 

*side note I only had 3 girls so I felt more comfortable spending a little extra. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I got my girls a necklace to wear that day (but it’s definitely something they’ll all love and wear again) and I’ll be doing robes, a personalized champagne glass, a bottle of champagne and hopefully a cute tote bag to put it all in if I can find one cheap. I consider all of these things to be gifts since they’re things I purchased for them to keep and appreciate and they have no mention of me or my date anywhere on them. To me, a prop would be something that they don’t get to keep or they won’t appreciate because it has ‘bridesmaid’ or my date plastered all over it. Total I think I’ll be spending $50-60 per girl which is more than I intended to spend but it’ll be worth it.

Post # 26
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Busy bee

I think there’s a middle ground between things for the wedding that count as a gift and don’t count at all.  The best bridesmaid gift I got was from a wedding I was in over two years ago – it was jewelry to wear to the wedding, but it was gorgeous and simple and I wear it all the time.  I have the earrings on as I’m typing this! 

On the other hand, anything that says “bridesmaid” on it doesn’t feel that much like a gift to me since it’s unlikely to be used after the wedding.  I don’t think a personalized hanger feels like a gift either, but a robe would (unless you knew the bridesmaids had robes from other weddings).  I think it’s all about knowing your bridesmaids and knowing what they would appreciate.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I got them each a different piece of jewelry ($60-$80) and then sunglasses ($20) and umbrellas ($20). The latter two were props   The jewlery was not intended as “you must wear this today” although a couple of them did. 

I didnt pay for hair and makeup except for my cousin who is only 19 (it was optional- only one girl out of 6 opted out). I kind of wish I had looking back just because I think I was too focused on budget when it came to the bridesmaids. I shouldbe spoiled them more. Although with 6 it’s hard!

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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ashtonia:  I treated my girls to mani/pedis and told them to do whatever they wanted (they all ran it by me even though I said I didn’t care and they could have whatever they wanted – i didn’t veto anything except copying mine).

They all got a blend of tea from Davids Tea that I knew they liked and a little tea infuser shaped like a dude in a hottub, earrings and bracelet to wear, and a personalized gift (pandora charm for Maid/Matron of Honor, perfume bottle for Bridesmaid or Best Man one, travel diary map for another, popcorn seasoning and her favourite candies for the other)

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I have been in several weddings and by far my favourite Bridesmaid or Best Man gift was a scrapbook my friend made. She made each girl a book filled with pictures, song lyrics, inspirational quotes and inside jokes. The last bit was a heartfelt letter (a long one too) about how much her friend meant to her.

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