Bridesmaid gifts – should I do more?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I be doing more?

    Yes - definitely

    No - this is plenty

  • Post # 2
    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Personally, I think you should be getting them something that’s not for your wedding (makeup and jewelry are to fill your vision, not necessarily gifts). Something small yet personal for each girl would be nice.

    Post # 4
    995 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m getting my BMs hair and makeup (for my wedding), a pashmina (for my wedding theoretically but also a thing they can use again – $7), a bracelet from anthropologie (it will match their wedding look but I think they would all like it – $50), a bath bomb, face mask, and fruity lip balm from sephora (total $20. Personally I think a few goodies would go a long way

    Post # 5
    30 posts
    • Wedding: November 2019

    I’m doing gift bags for my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs.  There are a couple of items that are wedding related and then some items that are personal for them that a non wedding related gifts.  

    Post # 6
    3095 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would give them something that is not for your wedding (ie, makeup, the silver/emerald earrings), preferably something specifically picked out for each girl.  “Shop like it’s their birthday” as a lot of bees like to say.

    In my view it doesn’t matter if you think they can wear the earrings again; you are giving all 5 of them identical earrings (which I want them to wear in the wedding.). If the earrings are “just because” and you don’t want them to wear the earrings in the wedding, no need to get them same earrings. Presumably they do not have identical taste in jewelry.  

    Post # 8
    9866 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think you should pick something individual.

    I have it easy, I only have one bridesmaid – my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor. I did pay for the dress, not as a gift but because I believe that’s the right thing to do for our wedding. My parents are paying for her hair & makeup.

    I got her a nice keyring with a quote on it from her favourite book and earrings. The earrings are not for the wedding. I got them because she loves earrings and it was the one idea she gave me when I asked her what she would like.

    Post # 9
    916 posts
    Busy bee

    So I’m a bit “cheesy” and do sometimes like the cliche things that say bridesmaids, *however* it serves no personal purpose. Are you adamant all 5 girls will like makeup bags with their initals? Why not just take the $10 or $20 (or whatever) and get them something nice you’d put in their stocking at christmas or something. For instance one of my closest friends would get some nice paints, bottle of bourbon (shes a big bourbon girl), a gift cert to the movie theater (she lives in the same building and goes all the time) or a facial (I’m a licensed Esthetician and she loves skin care) as a gift. Tbh if I gave her a makeup bag it would be thrown in a drawer 🤷‍♀️ I’d want her to get use out of what I bought her. Idk your friends or what they’d like.

    Post # 10
    526 posts
    Busy bee

    I guess I’m going to be the odd one out, and say- no! My goodness. You are doing plenty. 

    The few times I’ve been a bridesmaid, they didn’t pay for my hair or makeup or any accommodations. One didn’t give gifts at all, and I didn’t notice (not knowing this was a “thing”- and I wouldn’t have cared…it’s their day, and it was so memorable to be there for  that particular wedding.) the other gave me an engraved silver locket necklace. It was very sweet and thoughtful, but I would have been completely fine without, as that just wasn’t the focus that day. 


    You’re doing plenty! 


    Post # 11
    156 posts
    Blushing bee

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    napilipinkins :  Can I be honest? I think your update is WAY too much money. If you have it, spend it! But if you aren’t well off, I would scale it back. You are being so accommodating and generous already. I would maybe spend $20 more per bridesmaid, as I would not be expecting much of anything for being in a wedding where I didn’t have to spend $$$

    Post # 12
    7425 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think you are doing plenty. This website is so weird about this issue, but imo the jewelry is a perfectly lovely bridesmaid gift, and you don’t need to do anymore than that. I’ve been a bridesmaid six times and was given jewelry as my bridesmaid gift in all but one of those weddings. I never got offended over the fact that I was expected to wear the jewelry in the wedding.

    Post # 13
    2909 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    I got a cute monogrammed makeup bag (I think she got them on Etsy for a good price) when I was in my friends wedding and I still use it all the time. Not for makeup because it didn’t have all the compartments and brush holders I need, but when I travel it holds all my toiletries. It’s really handy! 

    Post # 14
    3095 posts
    Sugar bee

    My only thought about makeup bags (monogrammed or not) is that every woman I know has at least 6 of them.  And again, I think it’s kind of bizarre to give everyone the same gift, but YMMV.

    Post # 15
    788 posts
    Busy bee

    I got my BMs practical gifts as well and they LOVED it. For instance, the two most popular gifts seemed to be poo pourri and dry shampoo. You can get 6 dry shampoo for $20 and the poo pouri cost me like $10 each I think? 


    Eta: not saying this is what you should do, but an option since you’re on the fence about getting more gifts or not. It doesn’t have to be the stereotypical monogrammed or bridesmaid labelled stuff they’re probably never gonna use. 

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