Post # 1
i’m getting married in september and we picked a venue with a beautiful outdoor garden space for the wedding. the flowers in this garden will be the ONLY flowers in all of the wedding. i personally think flowers are silly and a waste of money and refuse to budge on this.
i thought since my girls will not be carrying bouquets down the aisle i would get them custom made wasabi green leather minaudieres with a swarovksi pattern on it to match the the pattern we’re incorporating into our invites etc. this would obvi double duty as a bridesmaid gift since they get to keep them. i thought about putting their initial insted of the swirl on their clutches but i kinda thought that was cheesy and would stop them from actually using the clutches when they go out on weekends. but i did want to get them something personalized so i’m getting them these cute delicate name necklaces as well. i am also paying for everyone’s makeup the day of.
is this enough/appropriate bridesmaid gifting? i kinda feel like it’s not but i think it’s because people have such outrageous weddings nowadays and fh and i are paying for this whole shindig on our own so outrageous is completely out of our budget 🙂
what do you think bees? do you think there’s anything else i should add?
this is the clutch in the wrong color and without the crystals in the swirl patter and on the clasp closure: http://www.etsy.com/listing/73844739/the-vivien-minaudiere-in-tiffany-blue
the necklace would be something like this: http://www.etsy.com/listing/62935345/personalized-name-necklace-genuine?ref=sr_gallery_32&ga_search_query=name+necklace&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_ship_to=US&ga_min=&ga_max=30&ga_page=5&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_facet=handmade
Post # 3
I think as far as the money goes, it’s more than generous! If the purse is something you think your BMs will like, I’d definitely say go for it!
If you want to free up some money in the budget for a different sort of gift, you could always look into having your BMs carry fans? Some of them are really ornate and gorgeous. Totally depends on what type of wedding you’re having, though! This site has some really gorgeous options: http://www.spanishfans.com/.
Post # 4
The clutch and necklace are very cute, and paying for their hair and makeup is very generous, but I’m of the feeling that something they have to use or wear for you wedding is not really a great gift. It’s something you’re requiring them to use on your day, so that sort of cancels out the gift part. I’d select something that has nothing to do with your wedding, and that they can enjoy after the fact.
Post # 6
the clutches are the only things they have to use for the wedding. i dont imagine they would use the necklaces the day of – although they are more than welcome to 🙂
they’ll be accesorizing their Two Birds dresses in their individual styles so the necklaces are more for them to have something after the wedding to remember it by.
we wanted to have a mix of wedding, pampering and keepsake tokens of appreciations for the girls.
Post # 7
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in several weddings and I’m never in that wedding because of the gift! My point in saying that is the gift doesn’t really matter. If you want them to carry a clutch instead of flowers, don’t make it their gift – because it’s really a wedding related accessory (that’s like buying their Bridesmaid or Best Man gown and making that their gift).
if they use their clutch after the wedding, that’s great! And, I agree with your decision to not personalize it with their initial.
It sounds like the necklace is their gift – and that is more than enough, IMO.
Post # 8
The clutch is not a part of the gift IMO. It would be like saying the bouquet is a part of the gift (they could take it home and use it again for home decoration etc). The clutch is something that is required for the day.
The necklace is cute, and I do like a name necklace. Personally I prefer one that is more like the Carrie necklace on SATC then this more rustic version from ETSY. But I would only go this route if you think the girls will like/use a name necklace. It isn’t everyones style and if it isn’t your girls’ style then keep looking. If you think they would like it then go for it.
Post # 9
I agree with PPs. I feel that anything that is for the wedding is not gift. Even paying for their hair and makeup, afterall they are having it done for your wedding.
I am paying for absolutely everything for our wedding, incl hair/makeup clothes etc for bridal party.
Their gift – we are having the photographer take a photo of them with their partners and putting it in a frame. Its something they will cherish but remind them of this day.
I think the clutch is gorgeous, if they will use it again.
Post # 10
@simplifiedbride: honestly, all 3 weddings I have been in the gift was something we used in the wedding, and i definitely felt it was a gift. I think your ideas are definitely generous!
Post # 11
I think they’re great! I’m giving necklaces too. And was a bridesmaid and got jewelry as well. Love Etsy! Lol Got mine there too!
Post # 12
I agree with most of the bees here, that something a Bridesmaid or Best Man uses as part of her required ensemble is not necessarily a “gift,” just like most people wouldn’t consider the bouquet one (rather, a keepsake). But if you tell the girls that it is part of their gift, it becomes that, and I don’t think your girls will think twice about the fact that their accessory was a gift. They may just as well appreciate the versatility. If they don’t appreciate your way of thinking…well, we know what the end of that statement can be. If I was your bridesmaid, I would think it an interesting take on the gift, not to mention a great generosity considering the make up AND the necklace (your symbol of appreciation). Sounds like they are lucky to be sharing this moment with such a great friend that is taking their feelings into consideration this way. 🙂