(Closed) Bridesmaid Gifts: Tote Bag or T-Shirt

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you rather receive a personalized t-shirt or a personalized tote? Or...neither?
    I'd rather get a t-shirt. Even if I hate it, I can always use it as a rag around the house. : (2 votes)
    5 %
    I'd rather get a tote bag. I'm a pack rat/borderline hoarder. This will enable me. : (27 votes)
    64 %
    I'd rather you skipped this stuff altogether and buy me a drink or two. : (13 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Well to be fair, there shouldn’t be an excuse NOT to buy your ‘maids a gift, even without a groupon!  You have to do something nice to thank them. But I’d rather give or recieve something personal, and not something cookie-cutter that’s been personalized to me, if you know what I mean?  

    I think that, once you’re past about 11 or so, it’s not common to wear personalized t-shirts except as part of a uniform.  So while there is a little personal touch with putting each maid’s name on the shirt, it’s still not a gift that’s likely to be used. And giving someone more clutter for their house doesn’t exactly send the best Thank You message.

    The tote at least has some possibilities because you can fill each with nice treats for each ‘maid but again, not practical as most adults don’t tend to carry a tote bag with their name on them.

    You may want to hold out for a more “personal” groupon like treating each bridesmaid to a mani/pedi (those are on groupon/living social all the time) or an event at the Living Social office (I see you’re in DC– Living Social has a building at 9th and F) where they do everything from cooking classes to candy-making classes to art classes to beer tastings. I don’t think most folks would mind you saving money and getting their gifts via groupon as long as some personal thought went into it (other than wow, I can save a buck!).

    Post # 5
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    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Does Vistaprint do personalized coasters? Maybe you could just do their initials on coasters. Something like that would more likely be used. 

     

    Post # 7
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    763 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    The problem with tshirts is that if the girls are getting their hair/makeup done, tshirts will be difficult to remove without ruining one or both.

    If you have to go one of these routes, I would go for tote bag, or tank top instead of tshirt. 

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    1928 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am giving my girls personalized tote bags from Vista print (along with a lot of other stuff) and I am very happy with them, they are a great quality.  

    Post # 10
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think it’s entirely fair to count a wedding-related expense as a thankyou or a gift. It is wonderful that you are paying for their hair, makeup, and hotel room– don’t get me wrong— but they would need none of those things if it weren’t for your wedding, and hence it’s no real treat. It’s not the same thank-you if the “gift” is something directly related to their “service.”  It’s kind of like if you had a friend offer to wash your car as your birthday gift, and you gave her a bucket and a sponge as a thankyou.  It’s just not the same. I really think you should consider giving each bridesmaid a proper treat— something that is just for them, and maybe not the most useful thing in the world but a nice trinket anyway that has nothing whatsoever to do with your wedding.

    Post # 11
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d rather have a tote-bag, just because I think t-shirts aren’t that flattering on most girls and ones from somewhere like VistaPrint tend to be so-so quality. 

    Are they personalized to the individual or personalized to the wedding? To be honest, I’d rather not have something personalized to the wedding. I’d rather have something generic and tasteful that can be used in all kinds of settings.

    Post # 12
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    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @KelannaDC:  If you want your gals to be matchy-matchy in the getting ready shots, then you should go with the t-shirts… just realize that they might not ever wear them again.  (Or they might be lazy like me and wear them when it’s finally laundry day and everything else is in the wash… or to the gym – but I don’t like wearing my name at the gym, it invites people to talk to me.)

    I got a personalized tote from a friend’s wedding, It just cluttered up my closet because I felt bad throwing it away, but what was I going to do with a bag that has somebody else’s wedding date on it?  (DH rolled his eyes and tossed it for me – about 3 years later.)

    I’m not sure that either of these options are the most well thought out gift, they aren’t personalized in accordance with your BM’s tastes, and they probably won’t get a whole lot of use beyond your wedding date.

    And FWIW, the general consensus is: if you want/require that your girls have their hair and/or make up professionally done for your wedding, the cost is the bride’s responsibility.  And the treatments aren’t a gift, they’re a mandatory beauty ritual that benefits the bride’s “look” for her day.

    If I were your BM, I’d appreciate something else more than a tote or t-shirt that you have personalized with my name.

    Post # 15
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    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    What about personalized robes if you want them to wear matchy stuff while getting ready?

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