Bridesmaid got engaged, now wants to dress shop during appointment for own dress

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
712 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I agree this sounds like a mess waiting to happen. She should choose to do her own dress shopping another day and maybe after she’s booked a venue. 

Post # 17
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Wow. It’s really rude of her to suggest they turn it into her wedding dress appointment. I’d not invite that girl. 

Better yet, tell you fiancée to go by herself. Less BS and conflict. 

Post # 18
8323 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

mmgroom :  

With the greatest respect dear bee, keep out of it . Not your  affair , let her handle it as she wants . I’d say the same (have done so in fact) if it was a bride micromanaging the groomsmens  appointments . 

Post # 19
393 posts
Helper bee

Ooooof that’s incredibly rude of her, it’s your fiancée’s appointment she shouldn’t have to share that if she doesn’t want to

That being said, I don’t think this is your battle to have IMO. Just be there for her

Post # 20
2477 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Sounds like OP is saying his fiancee booked the bridal and bridesmaid appts on the same day.  First it’s her bridal appt and then right after she has an appt for the bridesmaids to find a dress.  This is a big nope. Some people just have no consideration of others.  She needs to handle whatever business she has in your wedding separately from hers and make her own damn appt. 

Post # 21
109 posts
Blushing bee

How did the bridesmaid ask to look at dresses? I can see why she’s upset though. The bridesmaid can just make her own appointment. I’m wondering if she’s just saying she wants to look at dresses since they’re there, for ideas and whatnot. Or if she’s actually wanting to try on as well. It’s obviously not appropriate if she wants to try on, but if she’s just looking around it should be fine. 


And to those saying if she needs an audience… that’s the point of people coming. To sit there and wait and give their opinion. If you don’t want to be patient and sit there then don’t go. I’ve been to many appointments and it’s not that difficult. It really doesn’t take that long for them to change. It’s just the deciding that takes long.

Post # 22
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I actually would have been thrilled if one of bridesmaids had tried on dresses with me! It would have been son fun and made me feel way less awkward. But, if your fiancee doesn’t feel that way she can tell her she needs to make her own appointment as those are the salon rules. 

Post # 24
3086 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

My friend and I actually got married a handful of months apart, and wanted to go dress shopping together. I didn’t want the spotlight on me so we both tried on our own choices and showed each other. It was fun! Now, if I hadn’t planned it, that’s a different story. There will only be one consultant per appointment so the only way she can try stuff on isn’t if they have extra time, right? If that’s the case I don’t see what the big deal is. You aren’t utilizing the time so let someone else, as long as it’s ok with the bridal shop. And if you do run out of time, no harm no foul. She just has to make her own appointment. I’m also really laid back when it comes to stuff like that so it wouldn’t bother me much. My bridal party was friends I’d had for 15 years so it was like family and I wouldn’t have been offended. 

It was terribly rude of her to insert herself into the situation, but I think it’s easily fixable as long as she has realistic expectations that she’s getting the “leftovers” of the appointment, if there even are any. 

Are all of the bridesmaids close friends? What’s weird to me is that she’s wanting to do this with this group and not have her mom or other friends or family’s there instead. You’d think she would want to have the day and appointment with people like that. 

My guess is that they all get there, she feels awkward and uncomfortable stealing the spotlight, browses and doesn’t try anything on. Because she’ll be getting the side eye from the oher bridesmaids, your fiancé and the consultant. Lol

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